The way some women dress to look sexy, and sexual assault are two entirely different issues. Some women, especially young attractive women, dress to attract attention. That certainly does not mean she is inviting sexual assault. She is, however, showing off her shape. There is no way around this simple fact. She is clearly saying, "Hey, look how hot I am". The problem, from a woman's point of view, is that when she chooses to dress smokin' hot, is she does not get to choose who looks at her.
It has always seemed to me that women dress to attract male attention but in competition with (or for) other females. I think women enjoy being admired for how they look. Men like to be admired for who they are. The sexes both like to dominate the room, but in different ways.
Unfortunately, most women don't realize that men (unconsciously) are most attracted to healthy women. A peaches and cream complexion, sparkling clean shiny hair, bright clear eyes, non-flashy, well trimmed nails and a trim body is what gets the prize. Oh, to be sure, we can be dazzled by raw sexiness but that is akin to liking hot fudge sundaes, which might be fun for a short term but is lousy as a steady diet. Additionally, IMO, the women in the photos above are totally without class. To me, those women look like sleazy hookers. Class, ladies, class. Do you recall Lauren Bacall ? Now there was one very classy lady.
One of Neil Bortz's comments: A twinkie might be nice to have for a short spell but having a conversation with it is impossible.
Exactly right, Bobby. The woman who goes for the sexy provocative, flash, may be able to out-compete other women for a quick fling but in the long run it is the woman who has class who will win.
"No matter what a woman is wearing....keep it in your pants guys...unless invited." @ Chrissy Cross, That argument is disingenous and defensive. From a personal perspective I would say that a/ Women dress pretty to invite admiring glances. b/ Women dress sexy to invite sexual attention . What is the point otherwise? How do you know you are being sexy if there is no sexual response? It is one thing for celebrity- women at the Baftas or elswhere to dress sexily , but it is something totally different for non-celebrity women to parade sexily in the street. The former occurs in a (comparitively) safe place. In the latter case there is seen to be an " invite ", which at the least, quantifies your response. All that I have suggested is that Women take some responsibility for their own behaviour and not argue that only men need behave responsibly while women can do and say what the hell they like. There is a cause and effect dynamic in every human relationship and not just in nature. Placing this in perspective , I remember feminists once stating " All Sex Is Rape ", but take that through to it's logical conclusion, it necessarily follows that if a woman invites sex then she invites rape and in that circumstance is a consensual partner in what is supposed to be a sexual crime. "Keep it in your pants "is pointless semantics, that has no practical, moral or legal foundation in any sense. Indeed, if that absurd feminist statement had been taken seriously rapists would never go to trial. Consider that in the light of a wife initiating sex of her own volition and then deciding when the man is bordering on climax, " actually dear , I have changed my mind " If after listening to the wifes complaint the Judge took feminist logic into consideration she would be seen as having invited rape and the husband cleared of any wrongdoing . On a personal level I admire women who have got their head and their act together irrespective of what they wear. I am only interested in women who treat me like an equal and not as a sexually polarised opposite. If you look at men as sexual animals then they will look at you in the same way.
I usually don't dress sexy but if I do it's not because I want to have sex that night....maybe I feel good about my body....people dress however they want....shouldn't be a reason to be attacked. In fact in rape cases it has nothing to do with how the woman was dressed. Edit: I don't dress sexy at all. I'm not a feminist at all and I'm done with this ...but those are my views...I can dress like I please.
Sorry if I upset you Chrissy. I wasn't referring to you as a feminist in any case. You made a general comment to which I gave a general reply. My reference to feminism is to an formerly expressed ideaology . Nothing I have said was intended to justify attack but we don' t live in an ideal world. To the contrary, we live in a highly sexualised society, and Hollywood actors and actresses can take a large share of the blame for that , irrespective of sex. In such a society , where the focus is so strongly on sex, people need to adopt a more common-sense approach in their daily lives. What should be and what is seldom agree. Anyway, I wish you well .
Also...I'm not upset but I'm at the hair salon getting highlights etc so I'll be beautiful and sexy, lol
Sadly 'common sense' is lacking today The media is mainly to blame, along with celebs - very few role models today