Wife Having A Terrible Time!

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  1. Cody Fousnaugh

    Cody Fousnaugh Supreme Member
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    I'd love to sell some of my photos online, but I've already tried that on a website and there are tons of photos on there. Many of the same kind I take, except for the rodeo stuff. The rodeo industry has photographers of their own, with much better equipment than I have.

    Anyway, like I've already posted that wife and I agree that I don't work and take care of things at home. IOW, I can find lots of things to do at home, but she can't or...…...don't like to. Her concentration continues to be in search of a job. It's definitely frustrating for her, but she is a resilient lady. LOL
     
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    @Cody Fousnaugh

    So, what's your point, Grandma?
    Frank
     
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  3. Cody Fousnaugh

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    What's my point???? That employees don't always have to take crap from a manager and/or company. A company shouldn't have all of the power, unless the employee is the kind that will do anything and everything a company wants them to do. I'm just not like that.

    IOW, you don't like my work, let me go. I don't like the way a manager and/or company is treating me, I quit. Plain and simple.
     
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    I quit a job one time. Told the manager off in front of everyone and slammed the door on the way out. I felt good about it until I got half way home and realized I didn't have a job. I pulled over in the parking lot of Winn Dixie and just about had a panic attack. I still pass that parking lot from time to time. I was glad later that I quit, but I sure didn't feel good about it on that day. :D
     
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    Yep, you can do that Cody. You can also work at low paying jobs all your life because you never stay with a job and work your way up to higher paying jobs,

    You can also grow old and retire with no pension, hoping your 70 year old wife can find a job,

    Yep, we all have choices.
     
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  6. Cody Fousnaugh

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    I did work low paying jobs a lot of my life, but that was due to my education and what I was doing for a job. If a person has too many problems with a manager and/or company, they are suppose to stay and put up with it? I don't think so. I never really regretted quitting a job and got another fairly quickly. When a person stays on a crappy job, it can easily affect their life and family in a very negative way. The person can be miserable at home.

    One thing I have to say about your post, Sheldon, not everyone can stay on the same job and get a pension. There are lay-offs, department closures, company is sold and company shut-down. Been thru all ! For my last job, Materials Coordinator, the department closed not to long after wife and I moved.

    There are those, who are lucky enough, to work for the city, county, state or federal government that stay for years and do get a nice pension. Or those who work for a major company, like our friend did at Ford Motor Company in Detroit, for 30+ years, retired and is getting a very nice pension. My wife was on a job for 16 years and got fired. That can happen to anyone.

    And now, just how many times do I have to say this...…….wife and I want me to stay at home. Both of us agree to that. At our age, both of us working and taking care of home stuff would be too stressful. She has always loved to work, but that isn't me. However, did love my last job, but quit due to us moving out of the state.

    Anyway, folks, this thread is about my wife, NOT me and, this part of the thread was asking if you would travel 20+ miles to work, if you lived in a winter snow area? Especially at the age of us forum members? How many of you would never/ever work at Walmart, but would tell someone else to work there? LOL
     
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  7. Cody Fousnaugh

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    I never had a panic attack, I was just glad I quit. Why make life, at work and at home, miserable for yourself and family, working somewhere and/or for someone, you don't like.
     
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    @Cody Fousnaugh

    I cannot fault your philosophy here! :)

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  9. Peter Renfro

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    I worked 31 years in federal service. I was not "lucky".
    I was a high school drop out. I received a draft notice in 1972. Instead of taking the Army and going to Nam. I chose to do 4 years in the USMC. Two years in I was faced with either a general discharge or getting my GED.So I went to school. After my discharge I worked a bunch of crap jobs,garbage truck, farmhand,demolition. None of them paying to much and none of them having any long term potential. and all of them were very physically demanding
    I took my veterans points and started looking at government jobs. After about three years of applying I got hired as a GS-4 security guard at a local base. I also went to Community College and got an AAS. I bid on and was awarded better and higher positions as the year went on.
    I had to work shift work, split shifts,work outside in blizzards and heat of summer,mostly put up with a lot of political bullshit.
    I acquired a wife an three children that needed to be cared for, so I sucked up the bullshit, ate my pride and dug in.
    End result is that I retired at 57 years old with a pension and 401k. I take work as an equipment operator for the BTO (farmer) here and there on a per diem basis, not because we need the money,but to fill the hours.
    Sorry, you get no sympathy from me, I have a brother who had your philosophy, he is now trying to survive on about 600 bucks a month Social Security and food banks.
    Another brother that has been a truck driver for 30 years, still working at 66yrs and no pension,can't do anything other than bash me as a "lazy government slug that doesn't know what work is" . Yeah NO SHIT! I am sitting in Myrtle Beach while you are fighting traffic on I-81.
    Sorry Cody no luck involved just a plan and a bit of humility.
     
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  10. Cody Fousnaugh

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    My 1/2 brother use to disagree with me about leaving jobs...……..so much, I no longer even talk to him! I told him what I've told you and he simply won't understand. But, then again, most everyone he knows is retired with a nice pension. Well, DAMN IT, not everyone can stay at a job and get a pension! Not everyone wants to work all kinds of hours, including weekends. That's why I quit working in EMS and got a OJT job in manufacturing. Weekly pay, weekends and holidays off, but lower pay.

    When I met my (now) wife, I was making $10.50 per hour in Shipping/Receiving at 49 years old. I learned how to live off of that hourly wage and learned good. Rented a furnished room in a house, drove an old truck, had old horse trailer, owned a horse, cooked at home, took my lunch to work. etc., etc. As for my wife, she was 50 when we met and making $60K a year. Unlike my first wife, my salary didn't bother her at all. She loved my personality and the interests we had in common. I wasn't much for "continuing education", but she was. When I met her, she had two AA's and a Bachelors Degree. She got the Bachelor's when she was 48. I'm the one that had her start taking her lunch to work and that was fine. She also has much better "work ethics" than I did. I had no problem making personal calls from my office phone to take care of something that we needed. She doesn't like doing that.

    Bottom Line is: Those that can stay on a job for years upon years, and many times put up with company/management crap, including lots and lots of overtime and weekend work, good or them. Neither wife nor I liked doing that and won't.

    We don't use a Food Bank and are now living back where we should have never left (Colorado).
     
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  11. Cody Fousnaugh

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    And, btw, Peter, did you read Frank's last post concerning my philosophy about work? He likes it. IOW, stay if you like it, don't if you don't.
     
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    What? I am not here looking for approval. Franks opinion is his own,and that is fine.
    All I am saying is you reap what you sow!
    I spent a few years being an independent thinking he man.. I walked out of more than one job due to a perceived slight,or injury. When I went for unemployment or begging for another slave job,I was the only one admiring the size of my balls.
    No one else was really impressed.
    I caved,capitulated,sold my soul,left my manhood at the door,whatever you want to call it. Ate crap from up above, hated a bunch of it.
    BUT, here I am been retired 7 years not rich but dang sure ain't worried about tomorrows supper!
     
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  13. Cody Fousnaugh

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    No, a person doesn't always "reap what they sow". People get opportunities that others don't get. Those kinds of folks are all over America. Parents pay for their kid(s) college, buy the kid(s) a new car and even let them live at home for free. There are even those parents that assist their kid(s) with buying a home.

    Anyway, I really don't care what you chose to do to keep a job, not everyone will do that. That's just a fact. And, those that don't, are living descent lives as well. We don't worry about tomorrow's supper!

    Actually, Peter, I'm just thinking about the wording you are using in this post, as in "size of my *****" which isn't appropriate for this forum! You should already know that. I REALLY surprised that Yvonne "liked" your post/what you said. Very surprised.

    But, then again, I'm finding out my popularity really isn't there anymore.
     
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    Well, enough is enough! Gee, I think I've already said that at least once before. I'll have to think about that.

    Funny, Ken, why is it that it really seems like I get ripped by some-to-many forum members here? Why?
     
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    Because some of us chose to get out there and GET the life we wanted. No one ever gave me anything I didn't earn. You post the same type of stuff time after time, then get all huffy at the responses you receive.

    The EMPLOYER gets to set the rules and conditions for the job and the EMPLOYEE can take it or leave it. I wanted my life to go a certain way, so I accepted the conditions of my employment. I went to a job that wasn't all sunshine and roses for many years, working my way up. Which incidentally was much harder for a woman during the early years; I put up with a lot of crap that isn't allowed today but I kept at it. I had a good work ethic because they were paying me well for my time. I retired with a very comfortable pension and my husband did the same.

    For most people, you actually do reap what you sow. That means that if you make a half-assed attempt you will get half-assed results.
     
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