Due to the many surgeries she had on her eyes for cataracts, etc., my step-mother never drove. My wife's mother drove until her early 80's. She had one rear-end fender-bender and called it quits to driving. Actually, one time she took my wife and I with her to visit her daughter/my wife's older sister. She got in the carpool lane and was driving extremely slow. Vehicles were backing up behind her, beeping their horns and going around her ( and flipped her off). She finally got out of the carpool lane. After that, wife and I never rode with her again.
My mother stopped driving at 80 when she was going down a narrow residential road and took off someone's open driver-side door. It might not have been her fault. I had a neighbor who drove like your MIL. She never went faster than 15 MPH. That didn't stop her from driving from Northern Virginia to Michigan to pick up her sister for a vacation, driving her back to NOVA, then taking her sister back home to Michigan, then driving back to NOVA. If people were flipping her off she wouldn't have noticed, because she could hardly see over the dashboard. The Horror....
I live in a rural area. There are lots of times I'm on 55 MPH roads and come up behind someone who's doing 35MPH. I don't care. If I can find a place to pass, I may or I may not...it depends on my mood. If you want to be rational about it, the delay as defined in minutes is not that much. It takes 3 extra minutes to go 10 miles at the slower speed. It takes an extra 90 second to go 5 miles. You could burn that up speeding past them and then sitting at the next red light. And those folks aren't hurting anyone. We're all trying to get from Point A to Point B in one piece.
I don't ave a car, sold it. But my drivers license is good for two more years. My problem got to be with driving, I'd pull up in front of a store and did not have the whether all to walk in the building, I'd be so short of breath. And if I managed to get into the store tore a ridge cart I would be unable to do anything for fifteen or twenty minutes. I was thinking it soley my lungs but most of it is heart problems. So, I've got a license to drive, I'm legal but what would I do when I got there? Somebody would call an emergency vehicle on me.
I don't know her story but I do know that all the single residents living here are going through some kind of adjustment.
@Beth Gallagher I still have a wedding ring, not the original but a much nicer one that I bought myself many years ago. I wear it on occasion, especially to senior events. If the old duffers know you are widowed, they can be a real pain. If I was her I would continue to wear it. Not that the guys in Lons place don't know she is widowed but after 52 years married to the same guy, it is no doubt part of her. @Lon Tanner She is a real beauty and hard to believe she is 77. You must have taken my advice and stopped with the mortician talk and now you have the babes lined up for dinner dates.