My Daughter Died Today

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  1. Ken Anderson

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    She was actually my wife's daughter from another marriage, my step-daughter, I suppose, although she was an adult before we were married. We had a great deal in common, especially when it came to books and movies. She came to visit us just over a week ago, staying for five days. She would have been in the United Arab Emirates, except that her father died a few weeks ago. Rather than sending her back to the UAE, she was supposed to report tomorrow, to be stationed in Japan for the last three years of her enlistment, as she was three years away from having twenty years in.

    She was a Chief Warrant Officer. With seventeen years in the Army, including jumping out of planes, a tour in Kosovo, two tours in Afghanistan, and one in the United Arab Emirates, she died in her sleep on a beach in North Carolina. The cause of death isn't known but they don't suspect that it was anything other than natural causes. She has two children, ages twelve and eight.

    Please keep my wife in your prayers. So far this year, she has lost her mother, a long-time friend, and now her daughter. Plus, she is going through some serious health problems herself.
     
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    My thoughts and prayers go out to your entire family. Losing a daughter is never easy, no matter what their age. I lost my daughter almost 4 years ago and she was 31. Nothing will be able to take away the pain of losing her, but it does get easier. My daughter did not have any children, so it is a blessing that you have these grandchildren. I will also pray for your wife's physical and well as her spiritual health.
     
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    So sad to hear Ken. It's a hard thing to go through. My wife's oldest daughter died several years ago and we still miss her.
     
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    Oh, what a sad post. I am sorry to hear about your step daughter and from the looks of it, you had treated her as your own daughter. For a consolation, that she died in her sleep means there was no suffering unlike those who are brought to the hospital to prolong the agonly. I hope your wife would be able to handle herself with the sudden loss of a good daughter.
     
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    So sorry to hear of your loss.
     
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    So sorry to hear this, Ken.
     
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    Thank you. Of course, there was always the threat of loss while she was overseas, but once she was away from the Arab countries, with a promise of three years in Japan, we pretty much thought she had made it through okay. She was forty.
     
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    Ken, I cannot say how sad I am to read this post ! Bobby and I will be praying for you, MIchelle, and your family. This has to be such a shock, especially when you were thinking that she was finally going to be back home and safe again soon.
    Since my daughter , Robin, was also in the military,and being sent overseas ; I was always praying for her safety, too, and was so glad when she finally had to retire from a disability.
    She is just a little older than your daughter was.
    We who have a faith in God, believe that His timing is always perfect, even when we do not know why something happens. He can see around the corners ahead, and we can't.
    As sad as the loss of your daughter is, I also agree with Corie that at least she passed peacefully in her sleep, and with no suffering.
    Hugs and prayers for your family......Yvonne
     
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    I'm so sorry to hear this Ken. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your wife. I can only imagine the pain your wife is going through. For a parent to lose a child seems like something that shouldn't happen. The true balance of things should be the kids out live their parents, but that isn't always the case unfortunately. For me losing my parents was hard enough, but I don't begin to know the pain of a parent losing a child. Again I know that saying I'm sorry isn't enough in times like this but I am sorry for your loss.
     
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    I am sorry to hear of your loss. I am praying for your wife and your family.
     
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    Thank you, those who have weighed in since I last posted here. As it turns out, she qualifies for burial at Arlington National Cemetery so we'll be going with that, along with a memorial in Fayetteville, North Carolina, where she has been based for most of the past seventeen years. That will work out well, particularly since her children are living with their father in Maryland. The Army pays travel expenses for the family, which is something we hadn't even considered. Nothing has been scheduled yet, but the memorial will be soon, while burial won't be for another month or so.
     
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    My thoughts are with you and your family

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    Ken I'm so sorry! When I saw the post heading, I almost burst into tears! I feel so bad for your family, especially your wife. I can't imagine the pain she's going through! I am praying for all of you guys. May you find peace in this situation. :(
     
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    Ken, I'm so sorry to hear your sad news.
     
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    I am sorry to hear about your lose. Death is always hard, I have lost many.
     
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