Taking A Break... Again

Discussion in 'Not Sure Where it Goes' started by Cody Fousnaugh, Sep 19, 2018.

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  1. Frank Sanoica

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    @Beatrice Taylor

    Everyone needs help but I.
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    Ah yes Frank, and for the most part it is hard for me to accept any myself. But that said, when help is offered there are times when I do not mind it because it means that at the end of the day and the goal is met, there are two winners instead of just one. :)
     
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    This is dependent on whether the help is in the form of physical, mental, supportive, or proferred without true intent.

    Physical help is double-tongued often. The helper jumps to the aid of the needy, only to be mistakenly misunderstood as an interloper. This is due to the inherent doubt and suspicion present in today's society, missing in yesterday's, a change in societal mores beyond my scope of understanding.

    Mental help arrives in the form of generally great-understanding of human psyche; the help provided by psychologists, for example.

    A struggling laborer greatly appreciates physical help, unloading heavy bags of cement. A supportive helper intervenes on behalf of the one needing it, lending qualitative, quantitative, superlative, or superfluous help, depending on the degree of ability, and may prove beneficial, detractive, or inconsequential.

    The proferred helper promises support, offers future assistance, is believed-in by the beneficiary, who then is later the victim of circumstance, having awaited, expectingly, then realizing, after too much time elapsed, that no help will be forthcoming.

    Each has it's merits: the second assuages the needs of the bereaved through fawn and gloss. The third may be the most helpful and productive of positive result, causing great relief and atonement for the beneficiary. The fourth leaves behind a wasteland in the mind of the needy.

    What if no help is expected, therefore negating all need for help, in the needy?

    Therein I lie.
    Frank
     
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    I used to have trouble accepting help from others until I realized that it was selfish of me to deprive people of the great feeling that we all get when we help others.
     
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    Well, I was just going to read the replies to my Thread here, but decided that I'd better add this...……..sure looks like I should have NOT said anything and just took the break, or completely left, whichever I decide to do later. To a point, I feel like, by starting this Thread, and saying why I'm taking the break, or whatever, I opened a can of worms towards myself (as well as my wife).

    Just not sure, if I stayed, what kind of threads or replies to do, without being criticized a lot. I may be "opening a can worms" towards myself and wife by stating this, that I could have done as a thread, but...….Just found out how our young great niece has gone from heterosexual to bi-sexual to now lesbian. She's in the Army and been married twice to men. Her "now" girlfriend, whom she has been living with, put on FB that she is looking very forward to marrying our great niece and her becoming her wife. My wife says "disgusting". We are no longer friends with great niece on FB and her grandma, my wife sister, doesn't want to talk about it. Now, if I was to do a thread about this, most likely I wouldn't get much-to-any support for our feelings. This is part of being open minded and all of you know how we feel about that. Wife and I would be pretty much fully criticized for how we feel. So, even though I'd put my neck out there to possibly be hung, for doing a thread about this. Heck, I'd feel mad at myself for even bringing this to the forum for discussion.

    Guess doing a thread about the above would be like the old saying "some things are better left unsaid". Unfortunately, I like to talk. To a point, BIG downfall on my part and my personality, especially to folks that don't see how we see things. IOW, I may not be good for forum discussions at all. Something I have to think about.

    Last thing here...…..why on earth would anyone wonder why we want to move back to an area, that to a point, people see many things the same way we do. A lot of people, including many on here, would never think of moving to an area like where we want to move to. Not just because of winters, but because of how people think.
     
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    I haven't noticed that anyone here cares where you move to. If it makes you comfortable to move to Colorado, Wyoming, Idaho, or anywhere you please, go for it. I know I'd hate to live in Florida.
     
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  8. Cody Fousnaugh

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    I would probably have to say that, in some respects, I can definitely "dish it out, but can't take it". Hate to say that about myself, but it's just the way I feel sometimes. I can do more than my share of criticizing, but being criticized isn't necessarily one of my virtues.
     
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    That's a fact and very honest of you... you just have to learn on a forum, unless you're being unfairly criticised you just have to accept other opinions than your own... or discussion forums are not for you because a forum where everyone had the same opinions and likes would be a very boring forum indeed. Also rather than reject people's opinions , you could try learning from them, that's not to say you have to change your opinion , but for example.. I'll tell you something about London perhaps, you tell me something about the wilderness of Wyoming... that's something each of us have learned today.. rather than dismissing that fact as something we're not interested in, BE interested!!!..you don't have to change your opinions but try and be interested in other people's lives too... and learn how the world goes around!!
     
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    WELL-SAID, HOLLY. ! !
     
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    I still think (know?), I should take a break, all of you have been nice to me...…...am I REALLY saying that? LOL I was criticized quite a bit, before I met my wife, where I lived in So California, for my "Western" feelings/likings. Basically, until I met my wife, the only friends I had were in the rodeo family and none of them lived where I did. I even had a rodeo window decal on the back on my little Datsun King Cab that was really weird to many people where I worked and lived. Anaheim, Calif. definitely isn't "cowboy", except for the a couple of nightclubs that were there. I would say "yes ma'am" and "no ma'am", learned at home and thru the Navy, and the ladies there sure didn't like hearing that. Some even told me that. I'd say "good morning" to someone coming out of a post office, just to hear back, "Where are you from? Obviously you don't know that we don't talk that way here." I was sort of shocked, then had to really think about where I was at. I wasn't in some small cowboy/farming/ranching town in one of the Rocky Mountain states or in the High Plains, I was in "hip and fast-paced" Anaheim.
     
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    Well I live in California and have no problem with someone saying "yes, ma'am" to me...nor would I ask where they are from.

    I disagree with you about a lot of things but I disagree with others on here also.

    I do agree with you on Florida...I would never move there. A week vacation is enough.

    I also prefer Colorado...maybe for different reasons than you but..
     
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  13. Cody Fousnaugh

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    Unfortunately, for me, I'm only interested in certain things in life...….people who have and use a boat (why I'm on a couple of boating forums), people who love photography (as in Western stuff, mountains and wildlife), people who are interested in farming, ranch, cowboy life, rodeo stuff and people who love classic rock-disco-Motown and some oldies music.

    Call me "self-centered", because I probably am and it does sound that way. There were guys I new in rodeo that there were only certain things they talked about...…..rodeo (event they were in), ranching and hunting/shooting. Guess learned this "self-centered" thing from those guys.

    Guess it would be nice to learn different things in life, but.
     
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    Sorry, Chrissy, you don't live down south. This is why people have always tried to split California up into three different states. From Los Angeles and south, it is said that the area there is totally different than Central and North. There are ranches in the north. I worked for a rodeo stock contractor who's ranch is in Marysville, CA.
     
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    I got yelled at once for holding a door open for a woman, about my age, who felt she needed to tell me that she could open her own damned door. That was in Anaheim, I think. I would have held the door open for anyone, man, woman or child, rather than just let it slam in their face, since I was coming out anyhow, and until she started yelling at me I hadn't paid any attention to her.

    Of all the places I lived in California though, I liked Anaheim the best. People were generally nice enough and although it was a city, it was divided into neighborhoods where I would at least recognize the people who lived near me. Certainly not a small-town atmosphere, but I could shop in the same stores all of the time, and eat in the same couple of restaurants.
     
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