It depends on whether you've had a "loud" life and relish the quiet solitude...and attitude factors in too. Although I must say that even though I feel like I have a positive attitude and had a loud life (4 kids and stressful job and events) to where I now relish the quiet solitude, I still have my moments of desiring a companion to have conversation with and to fulfill my need to love and be loved. It doesn't make a huge impact on me though because I'm too busy being happy with life the way it is here.
I'm still not comfortable at night, Ina. I sleep very lightly when home. Sleep much better when I am daughter's. I'm not saying I'm afraid, maybe I'm just more alert. I had a security system installed after my husband died...don't know how much it helps and also Pickles would bark if someone was even outside but near.
Just checking in from 38,000 feet over Sarajevo, well into the holiday mood ,after a four course lunch with a couple of beers followed by a cognac and a Baileys I will probably doze watching a movie now as 3 more hours to Doha where we change planes. This flight is half empty so have a row of seats to ourselves. Enjoy your day
Sounds like a good start to your vacation. Wifi and food and room to stretch out on an airplane...can't beat that!
haha Terry. Yes, I think you'll sleep just fine. One Cognac alone would put me in the Holiday "spirit"
GOOD morning, everyone! Happy Monday. My day started very early as it always does. As soon as I had breakfast (it was a new diet recipe but it was gaggably disgusting) I needed to dance a round with the insurance company. Oh my goodness. But at least they were there on MLK Day and I didn't have to wait another day. So I needed to change policies in November because the old one didn't have coverage in my area any longer. Sent them a [rather large ugggggghhhhhhhhhh] check on November 2nd to cover January's premium, and then also had to pay December's and November's. Anyhow, never a word of confirmation. Never a new ID card. No bill for February and that should have been here a couple of weeks ago. Well, let's just make that short and say that they thought it was just fine and dandy that they're "backlogged" and they received my check, yes. Uh... okay, so have we been COVERED for January?! "You will be when they key your information in." Say what? "They'll probably send a bill for January and February combined soon." But I already PAID for January in November! "Oh yes, I see you did. I'll contact you if I find anything out." Yeah, right. Then I went for a few groceries (foot of snow coming later this week, but it's been a mild winter so far, so that's fine) and an expensive stop at PetSmart. Then I had BBQ Wings for lunch, so all is well. Whatcha'll doing today?
I understand this sentiment well, although it's been almost 3 yrs. since my husband died. Comfortable, I don't know that there is any "comfortable" in being a widow, and being alone. I can't say that I am .. some days/nights are just fine, and then others are nightmarish for some reason. Different things can trigger an onset of the blues, and the what ifs ... Probably at some point it will feel normal. ???
My husband died in 2004, so it will be 12 years for me in June. At this point I can say I'm okay living by myself, you get used to it. My husband also traveled a lot for business so in a way I had to be alone even when he was alive. Thankfully I'm the type of person who doesn't get bored easily or have to be around people to be happy. I would give anything to have my husband back but I've reached a point where I'm okay alone and that just comes with time. Not saying there are times that I still don't have a crying jag because of a song or memory but it doesn't happen too often. I did have a few years with an SO and I would rather be alone than with someone that wasn't working out.
The last time mine threw up was as soon as she came into the house from outside! I said, "Gee whiz, couldn't you do that before you came in?". She didn't know what to say.
I somehow managed to train Pickles to run for the door when he has to throw up, and only rarely does he not make it. Every time he looked like he was going to I would start yelling "hurry hurry hurry" and run to the door. I always got him out in time. Then after awhile I noticed he would run to the the door on his own and then when outside would throw up.
When I found Amber 15 years ago on my birthday in December, it was way to cold to leave a 5 or 6 week old pup outside. Besides I had been hearing her cry for three days before I finally found her, so I knew she was very weak. At the time we had a houseful of family still at home, and an another inside dog, (we had a blind cocker spaniel), was not needed. So I taught Amber with hand signals, and she learned she had an indoor voice and an outside voice. Now she is almost deaf, so the hand signals are very handy, and Izzy has picked up on many of them. My guestion about living alone was because I tend to hibernate too easily. I haven't spoken verbally to anyone since last Wednesday, when I went to the VA. You, my online friends are my only contact with the outside world for days on end. I guess I'm just lonely.
We are always here for you, Ina! If you can't have personal contact, forums are the next best thing. Hopefully though soon your job at the Vet Hospital will give you some human contact. Eventually you'll find a nice balance. Everything comes together, you've only been a widow a short time...you will get past these tough months and sad to say..years.