How predictable are you ? Do you speak and act on impulse most of of the time or are you like a scripted performance always saying and doing the same things? When I meet my hubby 30 years ago, I noticed he was always Gonna do this or that.Seldom did he act on those words- to my liking. So I told him, his first name should be Gonna. His second one name should have been Predictable. Nothing wrong being predictable, but no room for change or growth with you always choosing the same things. I bring this up because with his retiring and then this virus crud, I am seeing he has become way too predictable. So are you predictable most of the time in your talking, thinking, and actions?
In some things, yes, and in some things, no. I am basically a daytime person, and have always been that way, and can’t stay awake at night and sleep in the day, for the life of me. One of my favorite things is to travel (born a gypsy), so going different places and trying different foods and not having a set schedule is usually how I operate. Bobby has more of a schedule, which is probably good for me, or I might totally not get things done that I need to do each day, because i would just follow whatever came into my mind for that day. I think that a balance is a food thing, and not be totally regimented, or totally spontaneous, either one.
Certain things I have a routine about but never predictable otherwise. Talking, thinking and actions ..... no, I hope not So, 'Gonna Predictable' is jangling yer nerves a bit, well I'm in the same boat with my darlin' - keep telling meself I'll get used to this but I haven't yet, even though its so predictable
That's a good question. I hope I'm not that predictable, but I suppose only others could say. If it is about things I say I'm going to do in the future, and then don't follow through, I may be guilty if I'm only accountable to myself. Could it be just laziness? But if I tell someone else I'm gonna do something I always do it....eventually... or else give a good reason why it shouldn't have been done in the first place. That's why if I really need to do something, I might post it here. Your word is your bond. If you keep saying you are gonna do something and never do it, people won't trust you, or believe anything you say.
I suppose after living with someone for several years, both partners are a bit predictable. I'm sure my husband knows exactly how I'm going to react to things, so not many surprises left. I always halfway dreaded the day we'd both be retired and together 24x7, but it has actually worked out well for us. We each do our own thing; he's usually puttering around the yard, in the garage, or taking care of maintenance at his mother's place. He likes to keep busy and be "out and about," so he's the designated errand runner. In the evenings after dinner, he settles in to watch TV or on his computer downstairs, and I'm upstairs watching TV and on my laptop. He's very considerate and thoughtful, and honestly the best person I know.
@Beth Gallagher - my hubby is wonderful to me and always has been. Of course it gets a bit nervy for us at times. He takes care of me especially since I got sick. His predictability is nothing new just more noticeable after all the years and so much time together. This really was not about him per saw- just used him as example.
Sometimes in converation, I'll assume what the other party expects me to reply, and will say the opposite, just to see their shocked or surprised reaction!
Personally I believe predictability is a good thing; no need to wonder what a person's reaction will be. I'm sure my children would say that I am predictable (or for that matter anyone who knows me well.)
Completely lacking predictability on any level would probably land you in the nut house and on meds. I mean, do any of us know anybody who we would approach with a given issue or topic and not have a pretty good idea what their response is gonna be? Sure, there are exceptions, but no one is completely random...excepting those with severe psychiatric issues.
I like to think I'm predictable in that I am always forthright and straightforward. Family and friends always know where they stand with me. I don't dance around issues, don't sweep things under the rug, don't sidestep or ignore issues. On the other hand, my kids all feel like I'm a bit of a rebel in other regards. I have 5 kids, and I'm the only one with tattoos. I've traveled, lived on 3 continents and many different states in the US, love being a rider on Ron's Harley and we tour around when the weather is nice. I'm the only one of the kids who's gone paddle boarding, kayaking, Wave running....wait no, I take that back. My oldest and I took out a couple of wave runners and ran races last time I was in California lol. I tend to go off and do stuff that I guess isn't typical for someone my age. Ron's the same, just one of the many reasons we get on so well together.