Did You Have Parents That Divorced?

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  1. Von Jones

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    I was little when my parents split, maybe four or five.
     
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    Needs more Barlow lens.
     
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    Yes .. when I was 10.

    They were terrible to each other before during and after the divorce. They used us kids as weapons and it left some damage to my 2 sisters in a big way. For me not as much. After they both passed on it was discovered that there were some horrible things happening with them ... so bad that if they had been alive when I found out about these things I'd have had them each arrested after I beat the crap out of them. I hope I never meet them again but at the same time I thank them for showing me how crappy people can be and I learned NOT to be that way.
     
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    Similar story here, except the nasty little ba$tard$ they created (my siblings) have been my parents' little doppelgangers my whole life.
     
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    No. They had been married 63 years when my father died.
     
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    Yes I’ve really got no idea when ,I suspect it was in 1950 ( 1 was born in 1946 ) I was sent to live with my mothers sister for 2 years in Victoria ..I lived in New South Wales ( Aust )
    I was recently reading on my Ancestry my father did 9 months jail in 1950 for signing a cheque for someone else .
    I never met him until my brother tracked him down when I was 25 ....then soon after meeting him I picked up,the local paper only to read on the back page that was called the stop press and written in Red that he’d been shot and killed by a 14 year old boy .
    My father was 17 when I was born .
    My mother met a abusive/ violent alcoholic like herself and had a further 5 kids to make it 8 in total we all led a life of sheer neglect
    starvation ....I swore I’d never touch booze / or cigarettes and never have in my 74 years
    Neither of them should have been allowed to have kids IMO
    I’m the eldest ..,3 of the younger ones are deceased through abusing their bodies
    I’m a quiet placid person who hates trouble seen way to much abuse when young to carry it through to adult hood
     
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  8. Silvia Benoit

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    My parents were married until "death did them apart"....but I had an aunt-in-law who was so impossibly bad my cousin asked her father to divorce her mother. Rotten people shouldn't marry neither procreate.
     
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    No. My mom died when I was thirteen or so, and my dad didn't remarry until after I had graduated from high school and moved out on my own.
     
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    Yeah, a bunch of ‘em. First, my dad and my mother got divorced and then my dad set up this swinging door and whomever walked in he married and whomever walked out he divorced. Simple strategy really.
     
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    Mine did not divorce, they just split up 7 years or so before he died. (Nothing ever really gets resolved.)
    They met during WW2. My mother was British.

    They had 6 kids, married for 22 years or so before they split. It was always chaos.
     
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    It's a sign of the times we live in.
    Pastors have been quoted saying that since about 1980 or 1990 they have not even found two faithful people to wed in holy matrimony. They may know a couple previously wed, faithful and true, but have not themselves married any two faithful people in their service as pastors for decades.
    i.e.
    "chaos" everywhere.... (seemingly) accepted.... (seemingly) acceptable .... but not faithful...
     
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    They split up in the 1960s. It was a good thing...nothing but chaos.

    Lots of facets to this subject with all the choices that did not exist in the past. "Being trapped" and "being faithful and true" are not the same thing. I'm not disputing the ideal. I just think some (many?) people stayed together purely for lack of other options.
     
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  14. Jeff Elohim

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    Perhaps yes.
    Perhaps, though, if they knew before making a vow, a commitment, if they really thought that it is for life, and not to be broken, it would make a big difference. Only a few places today have taught that maintained faithfulness is right and good, I think.
     
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  15. Silvia Benoit

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    What most people chose no to see is the chaos fighting parents expose their children to...horrible.
     
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