Aging Alone

Teresa,
Sorry to hear about your husband's passing.
Sounds like you Two were in perfect step to do things together. Don't become overwhelmed if what you did together is too much for 1 person, cut back if needed.

Tony

 

I could feel lonely in a crowd of people.
When my thoughts are more entertaining then the conversation around me, Especially if the conversation is phoney, I'd rather be alone. But then again not to Appear antisocial, I'll stick it out,
Making me as phoney as the people around me.
I can be alone because I enjoy my own company, I have a million things to do to entertain myself.
Doesn't mean I Do not like people I do I care for everybody in my Family and my friends, But I know loneliness can put you on a downward spiral and lead to bad things, so I try to keep busy even when I'm alone.

 

@Teresa Levitt I can't imagine what that would be like. It was hard for me when Zek moved away and then later died. We were good friends and neighbors. I simply can't imagine someone dying that you are around almost 24/7. The thing is, being a senior, that we don't have a lot of time left for healing. I haven't healed from tragedies that happened over 50 years ago, so when I hear that time heals, I have my doubts.

So wonderful that you have Peaches. Pets can be great comfort.

 

tony..i hope you and your family are well...thank you for your kind words ..
yes...cut back is necessary

 

My Thoughts this morning

"You as a youth --you never know when you'll need it
You as an elder --why did I save all this junk"

 

@Tony Page - guess you never read my post on the necessity of getting rid of junk . remember for everything you bring in new, ditch something else. If there is no place for something- ditch it - don't store it

 

Yeah but the damage was already done, I still held parts from old TVs I tried to fix when I was a teenager what I couldn't fix I took apart and saved the parts, knobs, components etc.
I save so many things thinking I'm going to repurpose it but it never happens.
Fortunately a cleanup crew came in after the fire to remove debris I told him to take everything, so now that everything is gone, I have to start collecting again.
Pack Rat Tony

 

I'm with Tony on this one, there are some hard and fast rules for those of us that keep all that 'stuff' just in case we may need it......

1. You can keep stuff for decades but the day that you need it will be the day after you send it to the junk yard.
   
   
2. If you did not toss it and find a use for it you will not be able to find it till the day after you have purchased a new replacement.
   
   
3. When you have spent hours looking for that part you just know you have somewhere and find it it wont fit anyway.
   

 

Don't worry. If you need stuff, I can send you some of mine.

 

Exactly

 

That's a deal

 

I am a minimalist at heart , my husband comes from a long line of 'save it,you might need it 20 years from now.
i had to delete, as usual I was writing a book about this and decided totally unnecessary.
To each his own.. I am gonna leave it at that.

 

I guess the topic's been beaten to death.

Those who still have a living spouse with them can glower at each other across their corn flakes while the rest of us await virtual reality helmets that allow us to visit cyberspace resorts with virtual friends, all wearing sexy healthy ripped avatars.