A Relationship In General

Discussion in 'Family & Relationships' started by Michael Santi, Jun 16, 2017.

  1. Chrissy Cross

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    The man I was dating was 57 and supposedly very healthy. He had a treadmill in his bedroom where he walked 5 miles every single morning...that's where they found him, heart attack.

    Sometimes I wonder if I was there maybe he would be alive because I would have called 911 right away but who knows.
     
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    I think it may have 'the Pina colada song' in brackets
    If you remember the tag line is - come with me and 'escape'
     
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  3. Michael Santi

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    Very sad ...
     
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    I never did know the entire lyrics ..
     
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  5. Chrissy Cross

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    Now you do ............... :p
    Great song :cool:
     
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  7. Michael Santi

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    Heh ... I never heard the entire song and the ironic ending ... man if such things could really be in this world .... well i'm off to the garage to add some silly but very pleasing led lighting to my motorcycle ... in a pure case of sinful pride I'm posting it when it's done by tonight ... can we even post pics in here ?
     
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    Yes. Just drag and drop them. It's best to keep the width under 800 or 1000 pixels.
     
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  9. Cody Fousnaugh

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    Hey, @Michael Santi............do yourself a favor, take some of our advice about finding a relationship. Be as much of a "doer" as a "talker".
     
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  10. Michael Santi

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    ?? ..Sorry there Cody, somehow I gave you the impression I wasn't trying .... I think very fortunate meetings and marriages can really make it hard for others to understand, and makes it confusing about those who can't seem to pull it off. My best to you on your relationship however ....
     
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    Yes you have tried Michael, that's why your exhausted with it all
    But these things surprise us when you least expect it :)
     
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  12. Ina I. Wonder

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    @Michael Santi , you don't say whether you have ever been married, or even if you're a father. Those two things tell a lot about a person. When describing yourself in the your next venture to attract someone try mentioning these things as well as what you might like to do in your future. That might help the ladies decide whether you would fit into their wish list. Good luck. :rolleyes:

    I too am a Texan, and yes grits's are almost a staple down here. I'll mix them with ham, pan sausage, or shrimp, and of course there is always just plain grits and butter, with salt and pepper. :)
     
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  13. Michael Santi

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    You probably missed the intro page post. My excitement posted there was about just moving onto my sons property with a trailer home. I've only been a member here less than 3 days so yeh, there is a lot I haven't mentioned yet. My profiles when I was on the many ... many dating sites was packed with backround and I agree that as much as possible about one's self needs to be included ...

    Cody's post was a bit humorous to me because if there was a trophy for most dating site attendence and money spent on both memberships and coffee/dinner/lunch meetings with possibles, ( everyone needs to avoid E Harmony if money is tight lol) I would have gotten a trophy the size of the Stanley Cup !

    This site is not for such purposes so I havn't thought to go into that type of information .... but I guess I need to look at more backrounds here to see if I'm missing what others are writing . You like grits the same as I, butter salt and heavy pepper !!
     
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  14. Cody Fousnaugh

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    Yes, @Michael Santi, we need to know as much as we can about you in the very shortest amount of time. LOL
     
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  15. Ina I. Wonder

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    I'm sorry Michael, I didn't see that until I went to your profile page, and looked under your information tab. :rolleyes:
     
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  16. Michael Santi

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    Lol ! ... I can be a bit 'talky' so it won't take long ... heh ... My son and I always argued about my profiles on date sites ... he does short and sweet and says I tell too much, where I always tell him I think I like my profiles like we all like to read every word of an owners manual when its a new, complicated and expensive item we've purchased ....
     
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    Yesterday when I was young
    Yesterday when I was young
    The taste of life was sweet as rain upon my tongue.
    I teased at life as if it were a foolish game,
    The way the evening breeze may tease a candle flame.
    The thousand dreams I dreamed, the splendid things I planned
    I always built alas on weak and shifting sand.
    I lived by night and shunned the naked light of the day
    And only now I see how the years ran away.

    Yesterday when I was young
    So many drinking songs were waiting to be sung,
    So many wayward pleasures lay in store for me
    And so much pain my dazzled eyes refused to see.
    I ran so fast that time and youth at last ran out,
    I never stopped to think what life was all about
    And every conversation I can now recall
    Concerned itself with me and nothing else at all.

    Yesterday the moon was blue
    And every crazy day brought something new to do.
    I used my magic age as if it were a wand
    And never saw the waste and emptiness beyond.
    The game of love I played with arrogance and pride
    And every flame I lit too quickly quickly died.

    The friends I made all seemed somehow to drift away
    And only I am left on stage to end the play.
    There are so many songs in me that won't be sung,
    I feel the bitter taste of tears upon my tongue.
    The time has come for me to pay for yesterday when I was young.

    Songwriters: HERBERT KRETZMER, CHARLES AZNAVOUR


    Michael - Those are some seriously depressing lyrics! I think you should avoid such dreary tunes and put on some music you used to love to dance to and get your blood and spirit moving! Dance classes (or even aerobics classes) are a fun and healthy place to be with others and sometimes meet active people of like fitness and extroversion.

    I have to agree, though, that most women I have known are not now, nor have they ever been, particularly motivated by sex and are now fat anyway and don't want to be seen naked by anyone new - so good luck with that! Perhaps that is another good reason to meet people involved in physical activities. The Sierra Club used to have singles events like hikes, they probably still do. (I left the US nearly 30 years ago so am not current on such things.)

    All the animal welfare/animal protection/animal rescue events I am aware of are attended mostly by really sensitive and lovely, caring women, so that may be a good place to meet like-minded people for you, as an animal lover. You would already have so much in common there. Anyway, good luck!


     
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    Fab post Augusta - and Michael ...................... take note :p
     
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  19. Michael Santi

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    Ok Ok, Lol ... I 've heard all of you about my song habits ... While I was doing the cycle lighting job I filtered out the MP3 player songlists on the bike and drenched myself in my idea of uplifting songs .... I have crazy eclectic taste in music so don't laugh but I 'wallowed' in my fast list of songs like Muleskinner , Harper Valley PTA, Splish Splash, I've got friends in low places, This is a song for the lonely, 409, everybody was Kung Fu fighting, California Dreamin, Girl from Ipanima, Brandy and a bunch more ... And while I'm posting I might thank you Augusta for your post .... It's nice to hear other people agree about certain Places and states that have both ends of the spectrum ... highly health and looks concious or like Pa, a bit of a heaviness parade ... Both my son and my Daughter do agree with me on that but caution me not to judge too much based on 13 years of Ca. memories ... (Although I think the Beach Boys were absolutely correct !!! )
     
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    Great post Michael and I really like your choice of music - play on kid ! :cool:
     
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  21. Babs Hunt

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    @Michael Santi My opinion is just be true to yourself in all things. And stop looking for that right woman...just live your life and when it's the right time and if it's meant to be....y'all will find each other.

    When I feel blue...I also listen to music that sings the blues. And that music is a way of venting my blues right out of me. And then I can get on with life. Everyone has their down days...and whatever works for you in those down days is a good thing, not a bad thing. You also are in a transistion period of your life, so give yourself time to "wade" through what you have been through and keep what was good and trash the rest. Sometimes it's really in finding out what we don't want...that helps us find what we do want. But we can't move forward in our lives with unfinished business weighing us down.

    Most women (no matter what they say) do want the happily ever after. And honestly, it is my opinion that most men want that too. And we all want it with the right person for us.

    Enjoy your new home Michael, give yourself time to transition and figure out what you really want for the rest of your life...and then step out and live life until she comes along. And remember relationships are a two way street...that requires just as much giving as taking. :)
     
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  22. Cody Fousnaugh

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    In all honestly, Babs, "waiting around for the right women" simply takes too long. I like my idea better...........don't just sit around, go out and find a woman! A lot of women like a "go getter". Someone full of action and excitement. My wife sure loved that stuff in me.
     
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  23. Michael Santi

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    I can't agree more with all you've said ... perhaps one exception ... I could never seem to get as much as I was giving but that seems to be generally a sensivity issue with Gemini's ... I'm a Christian and ignore Zodiac, but I must say the descriptions given for Gemini's is ironically close ...
     
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    I like your idea just fine Cody. I just feel from all the posts he posted that he needs to sift through what he's been through first and make sure he knows what he is really looking for before doing anything else.

    I like how you searched for your woman Cody....and it tells me that since you were honest in who you were and what you were looking for...it made it that much easier for your woman to find you. :) Honesty is the most important thing in relationships to me.
     
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  25. Babs Hunt

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    Don't ever measure that giving Micheal...sometimes it's not always 50/50 each day...but if you have the right partner the scales balance out over time. :)
     
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