First of all, my BIL (wife's brother) has never been married. He is now 65. Years ago, he had a couple of girlfriends and was engaged once, but broke it off. He has told me "I can't afford a girlfriend". He works a full-time job, makes descent money, but only likes to spend on some alcohol, his car, medical check-ups, dentistry and some food. My wife has told me that he just isn't the relationship/marrying type. So, he sends a Christmas card to an old girlfriend that he knew, but hasn't seen in 42 years. Somehow she got his phone number online (I think she paid for it thru a "Person Search" website. Surprising the crap out of him, she calls him last week. He finds out that she's been married (once), but divorced for last 9 years, has three grandchildren and a great-grandchild. Lives by herself in an apartment, but see's her grandchildren often. She is his age. She called him again this past Friday and they talked for about an hour. He lives in south Florida and she is in Louisiana. He is thinking about flying up to see her and has mentioned to her about this. He would like to meet her half-way, but she doesn't seem to interested in that. She doesn't know what he looks like now, but she sent him a photo thru an e-mail. He going to have someone at work help him with the e-mail. He know very little, and doesn't want to learn much, about computer use. Anyway, he loves, and I mean LOVES, NASCAR and she has no interest. Her main interest is her grand kids. He told me "she would never move down here and I definitely would never move up there". So, I told him if he really wants to spend out the money to fly up and see her, that's up to her, but I wouldn't if I was him. They are too different and he sure doesn't want to be around kids. I told him that he can stay friends with her, but that would be it. Ultimately, it will be up to him if he flies up to see her, but if nothing becomes of it, he will hate himself for spending out the money. What do you think?