Dealing With Obnoxious, Toxic, And Narcissistic People

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  1. Silvia Benoit

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    Ken, to me it has nothing to do with changing a person or to make him /her to act as I like. I never said anything of that sort. To me the best way is to stop all contact with him /her.
     
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    I agree with @Silvia Benoit on this. There are some people who will drag you down. The best thing is to avoid them whenever possible.
     
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    Shirley

    And in many instances these people and are very willing to help others but their toxic side blackens their good ones.
     
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    If that works for you, great. I live in a small town so it's not so easy. I have to learn to live with people, and I see advantages in that.
     
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    I live near a small town, too, Ken. There was one man who was so insufferable that if I saw him first, I found business in the other direction. :) No offence to insufferable people everywhere. :)
     
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    I understand your point but whether or not I live in a big / small town to me the important thing is to be in a pleasant environment.
     
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    I think that all of us have good points and not so good points. I try to look for the good in other people. Usually, we find that we look for, in my opinion.

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    I understand you very well. One of the owners in my apartment complex is so nasty I refuse to take the elevator with him.
     
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    I don't mean he was nasty. He was just so full of himself that I couldn't stand him.
     
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    I find is our "moral obligation" to find the good in others. Yes...but in many instances the good is not enough.
     
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    Well, nasty or full of himself both cause the same negative reaction. :)
     
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    I have done the same - he is the most obnoxious man I have met and I will not be in his company
    Other than 'him' I get along with everybody here where I live
     
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    Depending on my mood, I may choose to spar with an obnoxious individual, but usually this will end up in a no win-win situation as that individual isn't even aware of being obnoxious. As for toxic folks, well, if I am so inclined, I'll chew them up and spit them out, as the saying goes. Often, I'll enjoy the company of a true narcissist as they are so full of themselves, that in itself can be quite entertaining. Most of these people are sociopaths and sometimes successful politicians. If, however, I cannot be bothered, I am a master at ignoring your presence as a human on this planet.
     
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    Absolutely excellent post, Ken. Excellent! Not everyone is alike and there are those that can get very offended due to past experiences.
     
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