Did You Ever Want To Live In A Large City?

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  1. Kitty Carmel

    Kitty Carmel Very Well-Known Member
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    I did. In the early 90's I wanted to move to San Francisco. I thought it would be fun to live in a very large city. I ended up in a large town and I'm actually glad I never made that adventure. I wouldn't even mind a smaller town at this point but some amenities and conveniences matter also. I don't want to live where I would have to drive a long way just to get something.

    My mother was from a large European city and loved San Francisco. She liked the business of the city. But I don't know if she would have ever wanted to live in one again.
     
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    Yes, I like big cities and the conveniences they offer. I know I would not like being out in the boonies at this stage of my life.

    I loved Chicago!
     
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    Oh that's cool. Yes, the boonies don't work when you get a little older. I've seen this play out at work. People when they retire wanted some land and bought some. Then fast forward and they are in their 80's or older and living too far out someplace and it's become dangerous.

    I just think now, I would never want to live in a big city where at one time it would have probably been fun. But the expense!
     
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    Fresno actually is the perfect size for me. I live in my nice section of town but I'm never more than 5 miles from multiple supermarkets, targets, Walmart s, costcos, sams, Trader Joe's and even one Whole Foods.

    A few malls and many many outdoor plazas. I'm near Woodward park which is one of the nicest in Fresno.

    Near the best hospital and all my drs.

    And Fresno is only a 2-4 hr drive from the Monterey Penisula, SF, Los Angeles etc. quite a few national parks here also. Yosemite is only 57 miles from me.

    Guess I shouldn't complain about the heat in the summer since our winters are pleasant.

    Population of Fresno is about 500,000 I think.


    Hmmmm...nice plug for Fresno! :)
     
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    Chicago? Aren't they the "murder Capital" of America. Having heard of an murders so far this year, but last year........lots of them among blacks.
     
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    Yes, but depends where you live. I felt safe in the 70's where we lived.

    My aunt still lives there and she's in her late 70's and lives alone and she's dime where she lives.
     
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    Nope, no more "big city" living for us. After living in Orange County, California cities for a number of years and now living in the biggest city in Florida (at least that's what's said), absolutely not. When we leave here, we plan on moving to a much small city that has 80,000 people in it, not 913,000 like here.

    I was not raised in a "big city" at all and neither was my wife. As long as medical is close enough by, a nice mall and a few other things, we will be happy.
     
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    Of course, sometimes, it takes "money" to live in a nice/safe area of a city. Where we currently live, sure isn't the cheapest part of this city, but is awfully safe.
     
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    But what about if for whatever reason you can't drive or have health issues as you age?

    And, there are murders in the nicest areas also if you pay attention to the news.
     
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    I grew up in the "murder capital of the world" Santa Cruz, California, and survived. I still remember all that and I was pretty young. People were even going door to door though out the town asking questions and if anyone knew anything on some of the cases.

    Like I said, no city wishing for me anymore either.
     
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    Santa Cruz is where the boardwalk is, right @Kitty Carmel? Ive been a few times with the grandsons.

    Also lots of hippies...


    I wouldn't want to live in LA or Oakland but I think even Santa Cruz has some good areas..

    I'd also hate driving in SF!
     
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    I have an app about local news in Loveland, CO and the crime rate there is very low.........all over that city. At least compared to here it is.
     
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    I'm sure it is. There may never be a murder there but it can happen anywhere, anytime is all I'm saying.
     
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    Yep, I was born and raised in the largest city in my country ... we lived in the best part of the city, which had relatively little crime..but only a few miles from the city centre so everything was within a short bus or train ride ...

    I loved the City...and everything available on the doorstep.... and although I've lived in the country for 40 years I would love to live back in the city again especially now for the ease and convenience of everything . but I wouldn't go back, because of the much higher population and bigger crime rate than when I was growing up in the 60's and 70's.. It would probably be not as bad as I feared bu after living in a rural village of less than a 1,000 where the nearest large town is a quiet country market town of 26.000 people... all these years ( with exceptions of my time away working in other countries)..I would be living on my last nerve I think. It's annoying because for seniors we need decent facilities right on our doorstep... I'd love to be able to take a bus straight into the city centre in 10 minutes flat... and not have to battle horrendously crowded roads by car for example. My dream would be to live right in the middle of the city centre, but the thought of all that traffic pollution, noise, and crime...forgetaboutit...
     
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    Top question, answer: That's why Seniors make friends and most cities, even smaller ones, have a bus service for Seniors.
     
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    There is no bus service by my house

    Would have to walk quite a few blocks and I'm sure it's not often cause I never even see a bus in this area
     
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    I've never lived in a large city like Chicago or Las Angeles. I have lived in Austin, TX when it was about a half million population. I liked it. What i didn't like about Austin was it grew to fast and it straddled an interstate highway. I remember Austin before interstate highways. It was a nice small town, the capital of the state. It is a busy place now and because it grew so rapidly traffic is snarled and like any larger city commutes can be long. I have also lived in small towns. They can be nice but serious shopping requires a trip to a nearby city. And, unless you are raised in a small town they can be snobbish and clannish. That's not to say you can't make good friends, it's you can probably never fit in. At least what I drew from my small town experience. I think I like a large town somewhere between 80,000 and 250,000 people. You can live out on the edge for elbow room and privacy or in a neighborhood close to shopping and entertainment and necessities. As I age, traffic bothers so that I prefer neighborhood shopping.
     
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    You don't have a bus service you call. The service is for Seniors that don't/can't drive anymore and the handicapped. It's a private service, but run by the city.
     
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    Sort of funny, but when we were looking at a house to buy in Strasburg, CO, population of 2,944. It was definitely a small town with one traffic light. Town was made up of mostly farm and small ranches. When we went to see the house, we put on our Western clothes (nothing fancy, of course), including our Resistol cowboy hats (including my wife) and had breakfast at a local café. We looked like all of the other customers. It was really cool. Our boots didn't look new at all. IOW, we fit in really good........looks wise, that is. I knew enough about horses and cattle that, if someone was to ask me something about either, I could answer. We actually had breakfast two different Saturdays at the café. Had a formal inspection done on the house and the result weren't good at all, so we didn't buy. Besides that, the house was pretty darn far from where we worked. It was a nice town though.

    That's what made Colorado so good for us, we never had a problem "fitting in" no matter where we went. Had both city clothes and Western attire.
     
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    Colorado, especially small town Colorado, were special that way as are Wyoming and Idaho. And people have told me Montana was @Cody Fousnaugh.
     
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    Truly funny, but some folks simply either don't like or don't understand (or both) the thing about "fitting in", when it comes to where a person is, or will, live.

    My MIL, didn't like it. After we came home from one of my rodeo's, she asked me "why can't these rodeo friends of yours just accept her (my wife/her daughter) the way she is?". IOW, very little knowledge of the sport. Her clothing was perfect, but I was teaching her the "knowledge" part. I told her mom, "they just won't and I'm extremely proud that she has learned as much as she knows about rodeo." My dear MIL really didn't like the "they just won't" part. My wife really, and I do mean "really" wanted to know about the sport and my event.

    To a point, "fitting in" is just a part of life and where a person choses to live.
     
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    Yeah I think Ive seen those and to be honest I wouldn't want to rely on or go shopping with that.

    I'd order online and / or Uber.
     
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    @Chrissy Cross Yes, Santa Cruz has the boardwalk. I'd never want to live there again. I miss the ocean, beaches and the cliffs but not the town. Yup the hippies and "Moscow on the hill" AKA UCSC.

    The senior/handicapped vans take people door to door and I think in my town are 2.50 a trip. So I guess 5 dollars round trip.

    I live in a large town I guess.
     
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    As most on the site already know, I like living in the 'City'.

    Did my time in a small town and wasn't my 'cup o' tea'.

    My City has Pro Sports, Great Restaurants, Night life, and of course
    Great Music. These things I always missed living in a small town.

    I can understand that others want to live in a smaller town,
    Hope others would understand that some people enjoy large cities.

    I pretty sure this doesn't make me crazy; because as Sheldon on the 'Big Bang Theory'
    always says, "My mom had me tested..."! :)
     
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    Nothing wrong with that @Tim Burr I guess I don't want to go out and do things either as I once did and I'm still in my 50's. Could have been fun to be in a large city at one time when I was younger.
     
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