Right from a kid, I always have If I see something wrong (caused by a person) I speak up If I see someone being conned, I tell that person that is what is happening I haven't met many that do speak up, it seems people 'tolerate' situations that can be changed I don't understand this, I guess people just can't be bothered Then you get the others that complain about every little thing just as bad If I could change this factor, I would, so that everyone can 'see' the bloomin obvious (I think I've just had a little rant to meself, getting it off me chest ) Maybe ignorance really is bliss - I think it just might be ............
I used to but it just gets me in trouble, so I have a new I don't give a crap attitude. I'm talking about online now. In real life I still give a crap but I've been hurt there too. Someone I saw being conned didn't want to believe me until it was too late. I'm talking about my ex who got scammed to the tune of $30,000 with the romance scammers from Ghana and Nigeria. I showed him proof and he didn't want to see it. We didn't talk for 2-3 years after that ....I'm just starting to talk to him again...as a friend. I was really hurt that he believed these scammers over me. This all happened about a year after we split so I shouldn't have cared what he did but I don't like seeing people getting conned. The pics they sent him were of porn stars and I showed him that and still he didn't see it.....or didn't WANT to.
Patsy, sometimes the 3 wee monkeys are often the best way to happiness...see no evil, etc......and it's true that Ignorance can be Bliss, the less you're aware of what's going on around you ..or the less you choose to see can indeed make life easier for some.... For me... in real life I can't keep my mouth shut if I see an injustice, I'm the first to say something while everyone else who has been moaning about it afore-hand suddenly start slinking back into their corners struck dumb and with no opinion , or worse the opposite opinion on the same subject of which they had previously been sounding off I hold great store in the oft quote phrase (commonly attributed to Edmund Burke)....''The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men should do nothing.” You see I'm not someone who can stand back and do nothing...in fact I'm far, far from that... I probably should stand back sometimes..but I'm just someone who despises injustice in all it's forms
Holly I'm astounded, it's as though I wrote that post of yours I'm so pleased I did this thread for your reply alone - summed me up perfectly there And what you describe is 'exactly' what I have been through with people @Holly Saunders
Yep, but I've let it go and it's quite freeing and refreshing. That's online, in real life I've also accepted my ex's apology and it's nice to talk to him again....who knows...I may even get him out here to help me with some things, he's very handy and loves doing it. Also, I don't have any issues in my real life right now that are upsetting, everything is going well...I see no injustices Happening that I can do anything about...so, I'm a happy camper.
You're right about online stuff, that doesn't bother me as real life does, if you know what I mean Also right about your ex, it's in the past and its good to forget about now And, its also good that you are settled with no pressure from outsiders ! Fab @Chrissy Cross
Yes, it's also good to be just friends with my ex...he was always a good guy, so he's great as a friend. It also helps that he lives in Ohio.
Sounds good to me Chrissy When I watch Judge Judy and see the couples bickering on there, I think for goodness sake 'grow up' they have children but are always putting there silly differences first and haven't a clue how its affecting the children. Being mature and remaining friends (as long as no abuse was involved) is the way it should be @Chrissy Cross
Yep, 4 of my grandsons only knew him and even the oldest one was very small when my husband died. They all liked him also...when we split they kept asking where he is and when is he coming back? It's been 8 years since we split and the oldest 2 still mention him on occasion. He also asks about the boys and how they're doing. Ok, I've gone off topic...sorry.
I can be outspoken, but ONLY to the right person/people, my wife mainly. I see, and hear, about to much gun and physical violence to be too outspoken. A lot of my "standing up/saying something about problems" days are gone, especially in public. Our crime rate in some parts of our city is extremely high and I made a Thread about it in another forum. The Thread didn't go over very well and I was pretty much bashed about it. IOW, people will tolerate a high population, traffic and high crime for a nice/high salary. I was more outspoken years ago, but that was when being that way was more tolerated. When co-workers, at my last job, had a complaint about something, they'd ask me to ask questions at a office meeting. They would discuss their dislikes among themselves after a meeting, but obviously that wouldn't do anything about dislikes.
Yep - you make a good point - someone said today that years ago, if there was a traffic incident you could bib your horn at someone and they would mouth an apology and you'd go on your merry way. Now - its road rage first ! As for me, I can't see me changing even though I wouldn't mind @Cody Fousnaugh
Yes, I do speak up @Patsy Faye when I feel a wrong is being done, etc. Especially when it involves a wrong concerning someone who is Family or others I care about. Over the years though I have learned when I should speak up to God about something and when to speak up to others...I haven't perfected this yet and in the heat of the moment my mouth sometimes gets ahead of my brain in this area. But when that happens I usually find I have done more harm than good in trying to right a wrong.
Oh - yes can happen, better if we can be prepared. Getting older presents a problem, I used to be so on the ball Now I can forget an important bit and remember when I'm sat contemplating it all @Babs Hunt
Usually, no. Sometimes the people I am trying to help are offended by it, or involve me in things that I had no intention of getting involved in. Because I might warn you of something, it doesn't necessarily follow that I am going to fix it for you. So no, unless it's someone I know and care about, I mind my own business. Oh, I might warn someone if they're about to step out in front of a truck, but I try not to get too involved. Oddly enough, it seems that some people want to be conned. I might say, "That's probably not a good idea," but I would use their response to determine whether to go any further with it. Depending on the response, my next statement might be, "Okay, good luck with that."