If Someone Asks You What You Would Like For Christmas, Do You Tell Them The Truth?

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  1. Cody Fousnaugh

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    Actually, it’s NOT funny, as unhappy as you seem to be about it.
    The situation isn’t funny, is it??
     
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  2. Babs Hunt

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    Cody, I think you have no idea what is going on in my marriage...nor do you understand that I would not let one issue we don't agree on destroy a marriage that is so good in so many other ways.
     
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    Whatever, Babs. You are the one complaining about his smoking and how much you’d like to see him stop.
    So, I think everyone in this forum knows you have a major problem concerning him.
    This isn’t the first time you mentioned this problem.
    Question is, just what are you going to do if he absolutely won’t stop? Perhaps he will try, but he has a deep love for smoking.
     
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    Cody, you are free to express your opinions...even if you don't know what you are talking about. But you are not free to tell me what I think or feel...or what I should do or not do.
     
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    Please do’t get upset with me. Sorry, I’m not as compassionate as some.
    Again, I don’t have to tell you what to do, but it’s obvious that what you have tried to do hasn’t worked.

    Bottom Line is, sometimes asking a person to stop doing something (some would call it “nagging”) that they really love doing, just doesn’t work. The man wants to smoke, no matter what you want.
     
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    All I can say, Babs, is good luck with this. I truly do hope he does something about this.
     
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  7. Babs Hunt

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    If Someone Asks You What You Would Like For Christmas, Do You Tell Them The Truth?

    Okay, now maybe we can get back to this topic.


    As for me...if someone asks me what I want for Christmas I do tell them the truth. :)
     
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    Yep, I tell the truth.............I do not want anything so therefore I do not ask for anything hence my not unwrapping a whole bunch of stuff on Christmas. No muss, no fuss, no ribbons to trip over and no colorful paper to throw in the trash.
    Although, to think about it and whether I asked for it or not, I did get an electronic pen and a very stylish pipe last year.
     
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    Why are you “yelling” at us, @Babs Hunt ?
    You put the telling your husband you want him to stop smoking for your Christmas present, and you made that a part of this thread As far as I can see, the thread has not gone off topic since this is what you started talking about.
    It IS the whole content of your post, and the only place you mention something different is in the title; so we are only discussing the topic that you wrote about in this thread.
    Re-read your opening post and see if you can see anything in there besides you wanting your husband to stop smoking.

    Also, I didn’t see anywhere in his posts that @Cody Fousnaugh was trying to tell you what to do, say, or feel. All I see in his posts is a concerned person who cares about you.
     
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  10. Babs Hunt

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    I'm not yelling at anyone Yvonne. :) When I copy and pasted the title of my thread it came out bold like that and the couple of other sentences typed in bold right along with the title I copy and pasted.
     
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    Babs wasn’t yelling at me, but definitely didn’t like what I thought.

    Anyway, for Christmas, I always want something. Don’t always get the “something” I want, but “oh well”.
     
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    You are right that I wasn't yelling at you Cody. I do appreciate your caring and concern...just not how you "speak it" as if you know it all...when you don't.
     
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  13. Cody Fousnaugh

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    Ok, but I do know the same as the other forum members do that read your opening statement. That is what I was replying to.......what you would really like as a Christmas gift. Thing is, will you get that gift?
     
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    My topic was not about whether I get the gift or not Cody...it was about being honest about the gift you would like if someone asked you. My husband did ask me and I was honest in telling him what I would like but it is not up to me whether he gives me that gift or not. Nor will I even be expecting this gift or devastated if I don't get it.
     
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    Now, something I’m wondering about: How many spouses want their spouse to start or stop doing something as a Christmas gift.

    Smoking is like other bad habits, such as swearing, drinking, gambling, etc.......can be extremely hard to stop AND the person has to want to stop.
     
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