This Is Not A Dating Site

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  1. Admin

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    I have posted this before, in this post, but it seems that it might need to be in its own place, as it seems that not everyone saw it.

    THIS IS NOT A DATING SITE. There are probably senior dating sites out there, and I'm sure they have their place, but this isn't one of them. I don't care what you talk about in private conversations, as long as they aren't Unwanted Conversations, but please keep the flirtations down to a very low level, meaning that when others notice it, then it's not at a suitably low level.

    I think it's fair to say that most of those in this forum are here to talk about stuff with people they'll never meet, and I think it's also fair to say that people get uncomfortable when they feel as if they are being pushed to become closer than they want to. There is that, and there is also the fact that when two people are flirting in a thread, then it's no longer about whatever the opening post might suggest. It makes others uncomfortable.

    Again, as long as those involved in a private conversation want to be involved in that conversation, then I don't care what you talk about in private. In fact, I won't know what you talk about in private conversation, nor do I particularly want to.

    But let's keep it out of the public threads, please. Thank you.
     
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  2. Holly Saunders

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    ...oooh sorry, I can't help myself.... there's so many men and so little time.. :p:D









    now I'm curious to know whose been frantically flirting.... ;)
     
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  3. Bess Barber

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    I'm going to read through every single thread until I find something juicy. How do I MISS all this stuff??? :p
     
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  4. Beth Gallagher

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    Me, too!! At first I thought it must be Faye's "homewrecker" post but that was about spider webs. :D
     
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  5. Bobby Cole

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    We really did have quite the row here about 3 years ago just to let others know that Ken’s statement wasn’t made without experience.

    .I think in this instance it was Sifu Phil who was being claimed by 2 women who were competing for him on another forum and it wound up here in a pretty heated battle. One gal grabbed a membership here just so she could follow the other and have a cat fight.
    I do remember one lady (I use that word very loosely) who mused that the other lady had come out from under her rock to post here.
    The problem with all of it wasn’t necessarily the drama concerning the three but the negative vibes, so to speak, spread throughout this entire forum and we lost quite a few people, both good and bad over it.
     
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  6. Bess Barber

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    @Bobby Cole
    Crazy adults our age would leave a forum over that. I probably would've logged on 4 times a day so I didn't miss anything. :D
     
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  7. Beth Gallagher

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    Hmmm. Ken might consider a forum rename... Geezers Behaving Badly or something. :D

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  8. Craig Wilson

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    @Bobby Cole I had something similar happen to me on my former forum. A crazy female who never accepted that we had no online relationship kept following me from forum to forum.. and making trouble thru her jealousy. She was responsible for having me banned from two forums. She almost broke up my marriage too.
     
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  9. Bess Barber

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    I thought we had all pretty much reached the age of realizing the opposite sex was rarely worth fighting for. :p
     
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  10. Beth Gallagher

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    Well, I can only speak for myself... but hell yeah. :D The one I've got is my last hoorah.
     
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    Wow!! sadly not unknown on forums... I've witnessed stalking from both sexes. What starts off as friendly banter leads onto something more private then before you know it one person gets deeply involved and the other doesn't know how to get out of the mess!

    Thankfully not me..but certainly over the years I've seen it too often..
     
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  12. Holly Saunders

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    I absolutely couldn't be bothered..I'm past all that malarkey!!
     
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  13. Bobby Cole

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    About 6 or 7 years ago, a Chef I knew got caught by his wife cheating on line. She entered the forum or chat room he was on and read some of the stuff he was writing to a couple of the ladies. Between that and a couple of porn sites that were in his history record is all it took to take him to the cleaners.
    He considered it to be just some fun and innocent flirtations and the porn site to be “educational” (idiot) but his wife took them as cheating and was indeed on her way to the lawyer’s office.

    Fortunately for them and the kids, he and she went through counseling and the last I heard they were still together but still.........

    Now, did he learn his lesson? Knowing him.....probably not.
     
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    Mostly, I am trying to prevent a problem.
     
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    As they say, "Prevention is worth a pound of cure."
     
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