Sometimes my wife gets this way and I have talk to her about it. Once she hears/understands what I'm telling her, she thanks me for explaining why she shouldn't be that way. There are way to many Seniors that cry "victim", whereas, if they would have thought FIRST about what they were about to do, they wouldn't have done it I'm not a "harda##", but do try to think on the "smart" side before doing something. The military/Navy taught me how to "think first" before reacting. What about you?
Making the correct instant decision has never been my strong point. I need to think about something before I an act, and I resent being put on the spot where, "tell me now, yes or no" is asked. So, you asked "what about you"? I'll think it over and let you know.
In real life, yes I am. In fact that's what I'm known best for by family and friends. I've also never been a victim. Maybe that's why I say everybody I deal with is very friendly here, because I'm always courteous. On the other hand, I used to be the same on forums but I've been hurt by online people too much so I'm not as nice and kind as I used to be.
Yes, @Chrissy, some people can be (seem?) hurtful on forums, but then again, some folks call that being too sensitive. Sometimes we have to look at certain comments not as "hurtful" ones, but more as truthful/factful ones. I've had to do that. I think that, not only Seniors, but other ages as well, need to use "common sense" before jumping in and saying "yes" to what some want or need from us. A fast willingness to be thoughtful or helpful to others can sometimes get us in trouble. Some call this being too "naive"! My wife tells me that that's one thing I am NOT.
Yes, some may be truthful and factual comments but I'm talking about other things. I'm probably not even talking about what's said on a forum but behind the scenes type of activity. People you thought were your friends aren't type of thing. Maybe you aren't aware of that type of activity and take everything said on the forum as what it is but half the time there is a whole mind game type thing going on in PMs. Maybe it's more of a woman thing but I've known men who do it also. There are forums that are just really about topics and information and no real interaction between members besides on the forum. On the other hand,there are forums where it's all about cliques, mind games, PMs, emails. Kind of like high school. Are you in the popular group, the bully, etc? I'm not naive in real life but I've just never been taken advantage of for being too nice except maybe Being asked to watch my grandsons. That's not really taking advantage because I love them and want to spend time with them before they're grown. Sometimes the 3 little boys can be too much when I'm in charge of them 24/7 for a few days when parents leave on trip but only happens once a year. Twice at the most. Both of my kids help me more financially than I could ever repay.
I will say this @Chrissy, you are 100% right about what goes on "behind the scene's" on some forums. That's why I like this forum so much, we show respect to each other. We may disagree with each other concerning a Thread, but we do it with respect to the other person.
I am always too nice, kind and thoughtful. Humble too. I have won awards for my humility, and I proudly display them on my mantle.
I am not kind but I no grouch either. My husband is one guy that sometimes go overboard with his kindness and generosity that I would call his attention. There are times he would be buying packs of candies that he would distribute to the children in the neighborhood. In his office, he regularly brings snack food for everyone (there are 12 people in the office) and on occasions he would order food for everyone. Maybe it is his nature to be that generous and thoughtful of other people but it's not good to be too nice and too generous because people tend to abuse you. Our house is the priority target of solicitors and beggars, huh.
There are those that "tithe" a lot to their church. When we go, we "tithe", but not nearly the amount that some do. We have seen the Yearly Budget of the church we attend and the "40-something" Senior Pastor makes approx. $1,000,000 a year. Yes, you read that right! It's a very nice looking church, w/some very Upper Class folks attending. It is very close to where we live. This Pastor is good, but NOT that good! We don't give to every organization that sets up a donation table outside Walmart either.
I agree we should all "think" before acting, but some of the things we do aren't always logical, and hindsight is always 20/20. I would also say that everybody makes mistakes even those who thought. As for tithing, I think the amount people are supposed to give is dictated in the bible. However, not everyone can afford the proper tithing amount. I personally would rather give to causes I believe in more, but that is me!
Yes, I am. My Mother raised me on a strict dictum of offering help where it was needed. Truth was a part of the equation. If I lied to her, she knew. I don't know to this day how. Facial expression? When I committed the worst act of my life, (stole a car), upon learning of that, she threatened to turn me in. Used that knowledge as a whip poised above my head for quite a few years. Before I was born, during the Depression, my Dad jumpered the electric meter in their house, using a big saw eating a lot of power. Agents of the power company came to the house, examined the meter, determined scratch marks indicated illegal connections, he was fined $200. No doubt this disclosure created a life-long rift between them. My Mother told ,me the story; the old man never talked about it. Skip forward about 30 years. My new wife & I, occupying the home I had been born in, bought from my folks, I, too, jumpered the meter! But, went off to work having forgotten to remove it. Gone for the day, the meter reader showed up, needing to enter (meter was in the basement). Wife knowing of my questionable proclivities, ran down to the basement, ripped the jumper off the meter, let the guy in. Am I a criminal, or what? And she? EDIT: Even more interesting as a part of this story is the CANNON I had standing in the basement. Civil War cannon, stored for my friend from DeVry Technical Institute. The GAS meter was located at the street end of the basement. The guy reading the gas meter walked past the cannon to get to the meter. Nothing was ever said! Finally, my folks demanded it be removed. My friend hauled the cannon away on July 4, passing several cops, without even a blink! I miss those exciting days, where we "taunted" the authorities, knowing we were still pretty safe.