Definitely don't want him romantically and I didn't not love him because of the alcohol, that was just a reason for the split. That was just the straw that broke the camels back. I met him very soon after my husband died, don't think my feelings were love just comfort in not being alone at that time. I liked him at that's about it, I needed him also for whatever reason..I don't even remember, I was still grieving my husband...it wouldn't have worked even if he didn't drink, the feelings weren't there on my part or they were the wrong feelings.
Just to get things done around here. Lots of little jobs that aren't even worth paying a handyman for and they aren't easy to find either. He was always good at those things and he liked doing them but the more I think about it the less I want to see him...it would cause me lots of stress.
I have heard that they have whole movies but have never watched one on Youtube so I don't know. I am guessing probably not because it's a Disney movie. I did come across it on my Roku but I don't remember which channel had it -- not Netflix. I see the trailer on Youtube.
I really liked that book...I will have to check out the movie. And I'm surprised you haven't watched any movies on youtube...they have lots of them to choose from and don't cost anything. @Ken Anderson
Probably...that did cross my mind. Why else would he pay for an airline ticket and work for a week? I'm exaggerating because he is a good person basically but I just don't know. There's just too many unknowns now about him.... Well his kind offer has ruined my day!
Well now I can just watch it from here then @Ken Anderson. I don't know if I want to watch it or not though as movies are seldom as good as the books that they are made from.
Well I guess it's good that we're having a pity party then Chrissy. Actually this has turned out to be the best pity party I have ever been too and I want to thank you for helping to make it the best one!
And his offer doesn't have to ruin your day Chrissy. Every person has unknowns and is a stranger until you really get to know them. But it isn't safe to play with fire..unless he's a fireman and can put the fire out.
I'm not even going to think about this anymore today! If I'm lucky he might have a change of heart also...our friendship now goes in spurts...we won't talk for years, then we talk again. Then all is quiet for weeks or months until he texts or calls. He's the one that always initiates contact though, I never do and you can see by my replies I don't encourage him either.
Is that what upsets you? That he just seems to come in and out of your life in spurts...no steady contact?
No, not really...that's more my fault than his. Lots of time I ignore his calls. I don't want him in my life but I don't hate him. He did a lot for me and I'm grateful for that. I'm just tempted by the thought of him helping with all the little things that aren't big enough for a handy man to do but are too hard for me. I'd also feel obligated if he was here when he was not working to sit with him etc and I'm very much used to my living alone and doing what I want when I want. He was always kind of needy with that and didn't like time I spent on the computer back then...things like this worry me. Lots of things I have forgotten.
Sounds like you know what the answer is @Chrissy Cross. Sometimes it's good to just be able to talk it out so all those thoughts aren't running around like crazy in your head anymore. You'll do what's right for you I know.