How To Deal With Being Offended

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  1. Martin Alonzo

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    I had a client came to me for help he had a medical problem the doctors could not resolve and they said it was all in his head so he asked me for help. He was going through a bad divorce and had a lot of medical problems start at the same time. I taught him ways of relaxing and thinking about things in a different frame monitoring the results galvanic skin response and blood pressure. There was one word which would increase his blood pressure by 20 points and that word was lawyer. Is that word bad, I guess it depends if it is your lawyer or the other persons. This is still just a word you can see or hear without going crazy.
     
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    True. For some people, don't say the word "doctor". For animals, don't say the word "Vet". I use to have a horse that, seemed like, could smell a Vet coming to see him.
     
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    The word I can't stand to hear is "Conspiracy Theory"! Haha @Yvonne Smith ...I'm just messing with you now. :)
     
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    It is not MY fault, @Chrissy Cross ! It was already a section of the forum, and put there by Admin, not me. Not only that......... you actually spend more time in that part of the forum than I do, so there.
    It has been a while since I started any kind of a thread there.
     
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    I was just teasing you @Yvonne Smith.

    I never go there on purpose but somehow manage to end up there ...must be falling down the rabbit hole since that's the way in. :)
     
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  6. Hedi Mitchell

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    I know about the comedians ! But have you ever heard Sinbad? Hes is so funny and has never used any foul language in his gigs.
    I went to watch someone unknown to me a few months back..and first rattle out of the box was...F@$% look at this ain't this F^$& great...
    Nope. click.... because that introduction lets me know...that's s the only word he knows.
     
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    Think I will just post this right here : Many years ago, about 45 actually, I swore worse than a drunk sailor on Saturday night. Not sure why, other than
    showing I was grown and could do as I pleased. One night, in a bar actually,had been talking to some people, when this guy next to me said : " you know, your really nice looking, but your mouth ruins it all".
    I was shocked into reality. It made me dizzy and, got me to re thinking how I presented myself to to others. Cleaning up my act did not happen overnight.
    At first I was upset that he said that to me, but at the same time, was grateful . When you're wrong- you're just wrong.
    Sometime later, in a library, I found a book that was called the Art of Cursing, written - I think in the 1600 century. Oh my, I was a saint compared to this book. I read a few pages, horrified at the language myself,but the one take away was- the art of cursing itself.
    There is a time, a place, and a reason to curse at times. Also, it is the delivery of obscene words,that make the difference.
    Cursing when used in public or some place other than at home, should be delivered like the punch line to a joke. Otherwise, it looses the intended
    reason for doing so...to shock and get your point across.
    Gone with the Wind, is an example. Rhett Butler, replying" Quite frankly my dear, I don't give a damn- did what the writer intended - to shock, and
    to show he just did not care . It shocked many of course, in that era of time, lol as you may remember.
    But when obscenity, becomes first choice, and used repetitively, it is not so shocking,but irritating,and loses it intent and purpose- in many cases at least.
    I guess in reality, I am no longer offended by overuse of obscene words , just bored, and like what's your point?
    Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham, in Downton Abbey, could cut you to shreds, without cursing. Excellent writing.
    Now you all toss this around a bit and see what you think:D
     
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    I guess I agree. I never really cuss or swear except at home to myself or driving or whatever but Iusually nobody is around to hear it.

    I'm also not a pro at it... I'll just use one word and not a slew strung together. My 3 favorites are the S word, the F word and JC.

    Nothing really offends me too much though....I just tune it out unless someone is swearing at me...that's different.

    I say F a duck sometimes....guess that's my favorite and my daughter has heard me say that a few times.
     
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    I guess after reading recent posts I'm not so much offended by that F word ..it's just something we didn't hear when we're young ,only time I think I heard that word was hearing a bragging high school boy saying I got a F last night.

    If we said anything my parents considered swearing we got a good clip under the ear
     
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    Well, believe it or not, when I was in the Navy, as a sailor, I didn’t cuss at all. In fact, when I got to Boot Camp (Basic Training), I was totally shocked when I heard the F word there. Actually, I wanted to call my parents to come and get me, but knew that was impossible. I had heard it in high school, and asked my step-dad about it, and he told me it was a bad word and not to say it.

    I heard all kind of cuss words in the Navy, but never used any. Yes, I was a “good little sailor” LOL
     
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    I knew better than to swear at home, in fact at that age I didn't swear at all.
     
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    OMG I would have been dead meat if I had sworn at home... but I don't remember it ever occurring me to do it. Neither of my parents used bad language.... My father was an evil violent brute of a man who was raised in the most violent part of one of the most violent cities in the world at the time and had been a fighter all his life.. yet even he didn't use it....and my mother used to say to us kids if you can't express yourself without using bad language then you should keep your mouth closed...

    That said, I heard my father use the F word one time ...only once in my whole life....We kids all looked at each other in utter shock... !! I think we were more stunned at him swearing than we were at being beaten up by him....
     
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    I have said cheese and rice got all muddy many times
     
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    I'm offended when used as a form of entertaining :rolleyes:
    I find the 'constant' use just 'common'
    It serves no purpose and is just irritating !
     
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    The reason we say 'knife and fork' in that order and not the other way round is obviously to avoid people from being offended thinking you had said 'F###'ing knife' with an irish accent.
    I got the information from volume one ;
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