Optimist Or Pessimist?

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  1. Chrissy Cross

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    I could have had more years, he died young.
     
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    None of us know how long we will live Chrissy. You were blessed to have the years you did have with him. I'm sorry if you can't see it that way, but I do.
     
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    Yes, we all die and I know that but I still can't turn it into a blessing that he died sooner than he should have.

    I'm darn sure he didn't think so.
     
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    The blessing is that you had all those wonderful years with him before he did die.
     
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    Yes, but that stopped when he died...no more blessing.

    And that wasn't really a blessing, it was part of life and some work on both our parts to have a good marriage..it didn't just happen.

    I'm neither a pessimist or an optimist, more of a realist...it is what it is..
     
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    It's true that the reality of life is that it doesn't always turn out like we want it to or last long enough for many of us...but it's also true in my opinion that every day we have of life for ourselves and with those we love is a blessing that is priceless and always will be to me.
     
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    Yes, there are good days and there are bad days, I just can't pretend a bad day is good when it's really not.

    I'm glad I'm alive but if I die, I'm not going to be worried about that...I may worry before but not after.
     
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    Chrissy - I meant to answer you before I logged off
    Losing a loved one is an incredible loss, all optimism is lost also
    Ongoing illness is another loss to bear, no longer the person you were
    You will have good and bad days from then on

    @Chrissy Cross
     
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    Thanks and true!
     
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    Ah, so! See, I do not equate pessimism as necessarily being negative, as such, but rather an expectation of lesser than ideal results.
    Frank
     
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    Pretty much always been a Pessimist.
    I want things to work out, but something always seems to get in the way.
    I am getting better, thanks to some positive help.

    But this is how I still think about life...

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    One advantage to pessimism is that the reality is more likely to be better than you anticipated.
     
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    True. At least your not disappointed as much as an optimist:)
     
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    I've always been mostly negative so I reckon I'm mostly pessimist. I did on a couple of occasions carry my pessimistic attitude too far and I regretted one occasion. Mostly i merely tried to play devil's advocate to all optimist out there. My glass has always been half empty.
     
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    Well we could say pessimists are always disappointed and optimists see joy more easily, I only see it 'cos I look for it
    I don't think my disappointments are any more substantial than a pessimist
     
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