Our divorce was very Amicable & non contensious. She is now 74 years old and has been working as a RN with Doctors Without Borders since our divorce four years ago. Even when we were married I witnessed her donating her time as a Certified Nurse Midwife & RN helping South Pacific Islanders & doing Triage work after the New Zealand earthquake. We communicate regularly via email.
I have absolutely nothing at all to do with my "ex". She does have a Facebook page, but very, very seldom goes on it. She's been married for years. We divorced in 1978 and that was the end of "us".
@Shirley Martin Most have already heard about my ex-. I spoke to her last year on her birthday, the day I always think about those old times. She is 5 years younger than I, lives alone with her cat, still in Vegas where she remained when we separated and I took a job in Colorado. Do I dare.......Oh, what the hell! Why not? Happier times, before she lost her folks. She asked for, as part of remodeling the old bungalow I had been born in, and my own parents had moved to Michigan, a new stove with two ovens. Wish granted! She loved to cook, mmm, those pierogies! Frank
I have zilch to do with my ex,,,, we divorced around '84... he was a deadbeat father, never paid a penny maintenance for his daughter even tho' he worked and could afford to.. preferring to spend his money on other women ..... he lives just a few hundred yards from me, but I've only ever seen him once in 20 years!!
You don't say why you divorced @Lon Tanner but the reasons why we divorce does have a big effect on whether there is any kind of relationship after divorce...and if so, what kind. I don't admire my ex as a man because he is still the verbally and emotional bully he was when I was married to him. But I respect him as my children's dad and treat with that respect when we are all together at family get togethers. It has been easier to forgive him for how he treated me now that I am not married to him and won't allow him to treat me that way anymore, but there can never be more than a civil relationship between us. He wasn't a friend to me when we were married and there is no way we could be friends now. I know of many cases though where married couples just outgrew each other and though they still liked and had fondness for each other...they just didn't want to be married anymore. So they divorced and like you and your ex stayed on a friendly basis while moving on with their lives. In fact this is what happened with my best friend...and she and her ex have a relationship probably much like your ex and you. It just isn't possible for everyone...but I'm happy to hear it was possible for you and your ex.
After our first marriage, and the resulting annulment, she tried to get back with me a couple of times. The third time, we did get back together and remarried...…..mistake! I really found out that all we had with each other was a "physical attraction", definitely not love. I wanted more, but that was never in our future. We had way to many differences. I still had the "country/farm" mind and she was definitely the "beach" type. I think I mentioned this somewhere else on this forum, but, in the beginning, she was extremely attracted to my EMS uniform. She married a Marine years ago and is still with him. I'm very happy that she met him. He is now a retired Marine. She knows nothing about me and hasn't for years.
We had children from our prior marriage. She had three daughters and was divorced. I had one daughter and was a widower. As we got older and developed health problems we no longer wanted to continue the extensive traveling that we had been doing since my retirement and wanted to be closer to our children and grand children that lived in separate areas.
I lost first wife to Pancreatic Cancer & the second wife a Amicable Divorce. I now live alone and though very different women, I am missing both of them.
@Lon Tanner I, too, was amicably divorced, from my first, at her own request, in 1976. She still lives in Vegas, where we lived back then, is single, living alone........I have missed her since then, though less for awhile, but now.......it's a process of forced readjustment, I suppose. Frank
My second wife is single and living alone where we lived together in Roseville. Many folks can't relate to a Amicable Divorce.
awwwww, I'm sure you must miss them Lon.... you need to find yourself a lady companion. I remember before you moved into your new home, you often had lady friends around for dinner, don't you have them now?