At This Point In Your Life Which Is More Important - Sex Or Intimacy?

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  1. Lon Tanner

    Lon Tanner Supreme Member
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    We all have or will reach a point where sex as such is just a fond memory and Intimacy becomes the focus.
     
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    Emotional intimacy has always been my priority.
     
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  3. Bobby Cole

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    One’s sensuality and sexuality is extremely important but the act is only for a little while and sporadic whilst intimacy is 24/7 and 365 as it should be between married couples.
     
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    They are both more important.

    YMMV
     
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    That's difficult to answer. Its like "love and marriage", they do together. How does the song go? You can't have one without the other.
     
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  6. Lon Tanner

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    At this point in my life I miss the human touch of intimacy and it's one of the reasons I enjoy massage but sexual activity is just fond memories.
     
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  7. Beth Gallagher

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    At this point in life, some things are private just as they were at every other point in life.
     
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    Ain't that the truf. :D
     
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    i don't participate in the sex anymore at all. haven't for 20 yrs now at least. no longer care. and the more i'm alone the less i seem to need intimacy. when the pandemic first hit my need to be hugged was stifled to the point where i got so depressed i was actually in tears one day at work. then i bought a stuffed animal that was like a pillow at the gift shop and i've been good since. she's a cat named kiki. lol!
     
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    It's easier to come by sex but intimacy is nice too. I could pay for sex but purchased intimacy doesn't even sound appealing. Right now though, they both have their place in my days. I wish I had more of both but I'm a proud member of ty his club and this is pretty fun too. So many choices but limited time.

    It seems to me though that although women live longer, a man's desire for sex lasts longer than a woman's desire, generally speaking. Male and female drives just don't seem to sync very well.
     
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    Sorry, but I don't believe intimacy can be purchased. JMHO
     
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  12. Jack Roberts

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    I agree, it would be faked. Would a man notice or care? Maybe, maybe not. Is it ethical for a woman to allow a man to believe that what they share is real just for money? Not a problem I've been ever faced. Men like sex though. That I know. I've never heard any male friend of mine complain that they felt gypped on intimacy though. Both have their place. It's complicated I guess.
     
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  13. Beth Gallagher

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    Bulletin: Women like sex, too.
     
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    You're quite right and I’ve met several but as they age, speaking strictly from my personal experience, more like it less. Most men though, able or not, still are interested. Age isn’t or doesn’t seem to affect interest for most, nearly all. There doesn’t seem to be any one size fits all consensus but if there were, how interesting would things (life) be then? Sex is kind of like the weather. Everyone talks about it but no one does much about changing it.
     
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  15. Beth Gallagher

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    Once again I disagree. In my experience, "everyone" does not talk about sex and it is not at all "like the weather."
     
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