Is Controlling Everything In Your World Important To You?

Do you ever have feelings of grandiosity or think that you’re the ultimate authority on anything and everything? Do you like to stifle and obfuscate dissenting opinion whenever possible? Do you know others who display these traits? Have you ever known someone who took themselves too seriously? What would such a person be called? I think I’ve met one or two, recently and it’s a new experience for me that’s not at all a pleasant one. Anyone else ever had such an experience? Let’s talk about it! : o )

 

I feel like everyone has an opinion but these days it seems to be more enhanced than before. So much division has forced all to take sides and now disagreeing is more like an attack than a debate.We all feel like we are under attack socially,politically and in some cases personally.
I don't feel like I'm correct about everything and do feel like my mind can be changed with facts. Seems to me that some people have more freedom of speech than others. Also ghinking outside the box or group can be a challenge ,we humans like to belong to the club so to speak and are in fear of offending someone.

 

I can barely control my own obfuscating opinions, much less somebody else's.

 

How about that shared world or the portion of it? Who should or what does control that?

 

In my world yes, but not another persons world.

 

I am prone to being a control freak in little ways in my personal world as a way to manage anxiety and insecurity. So I consciously work at trying to let go of control. One part of that that I've pretty much succeeded at is not having to be right, not needing to be agreed with, not needing to argue differences of opinion. I wouldn't want to be the ultimate authority on anything meaningful.

This doesn't mean I don't have strong opinions about stuff. I just don't see the value in arguing with others who are entrenched in their own. I'll find other avenues to express what I can't keep silent about.

 

It is important to me to remind myself the only thing I really can control is my own thoughts...and that makes all the difference in my life

 

I can't help it if some subjects bring out the worst in me. Don't tell me your problems if you can't handle the truth ,[ meant for 51 year old brat daughter]
Maybe also remember old people like me don't have a clue so I need to keep my mouth shut when talking to know it alls..

 

Perhaps you can't help your initial thought, but you can choose what you will do with the thought. You can either add negativity or see the situation differently

 

Yea right! Thats easy for you to say, See if I ever ask for your advice.

 

I learned earlier this year with a cancer diagnosis that I actually have little to no "control" of things at all. My life has not been my own since January 12, 2021.

 

I know thats right Beth. Its just hard to be quite some times. One sided conversations no free speech,lol. Then they ask whats wrong with you today,lol.

 

Oh, I used to think I was in charge, Marie. It just took a mortality check to show me I was wrong.

 

I know thats right.I'm learning just a slow learner I guess.