A nice alternative to "hole" is "hat". Calling someone an asshat suggests said person has his/or head up their ass, which may be less odorous to those with more delicate sensibilities. As a side note, the only time I use really filthy language is when in great pain for whatever reason. Having had forced tastings of ivory soap, the sting of the pussy willow switch and the ever-vigilant ears of school teachers who could ruin your day; filthy language didn't make it into my everyday communications.
I've never been one to use foul language and both my wife and her family are very grateful of that. Even when I was in the Navy, I didn't.
Well then I suppose I'm lazy. When I'm pissed I don't worry about eloquence, and people should be glad for that.
I had a long career in corporate America. "Know your audience" was my motto. (But alone in the car on my way home I told 'em all exactly what I thought "outside the box." )
It appears that Ken has not deleted your favorite word so I assume it's OK for "occasional use." I occasionally interject a "WTF" into a post and no one has fainted, though they may be clutching their pearls in private.
That surprises me. To me, the use of such language is rarely intentional or premeditated, it's merely habit. I would bet that most people who are free-flowing with swear words were raised where expletives were the norm. I was raised in such a household and have to avoid any use of such words altogether or it becomes unconscious routine. I don't see how your husband could compartmentalize it like that. I can't.
Thanks, John. I have never used the word asshat I guess because I didn't know the roots of the word. I wish I had known its roots back in my rodeo days. It would have worked well with shit for brains and shitfaced. I was stood up because that shit for brains asshat got shitfaced.
I've never had any problem compartmentalizing. As I said above, "know your audience." I was not raised in a household where there was any swearing but I managed to acquire it on my own.
Yovonne said that Ken is on vacation, so until he gets back home.......... As for me, I surely hope he doesn't approve it. Like one member stated about one person doing it than it starts the "well, I guess it's alright for me to say that". Next thing would be some forum members leaving.
Ken has been checking in ever since he left. And if "some forum members" wish to make yet another dramatic exit, have at it.
Knowing your audience is the key. I was waiting for a high school kid to move that was standing blocking a lunch place exit. After several excuse me's I asked him to please get the hell out of the way and he called me a mother f'er. I called him a disrespectful little father f'er and that had his buddies laughing at him, calling him a homo, and shoving him out of my way.
Sure, I can keep a lid on it when I'm at work. But I find if I swear at all, the risk of it slipping out at the wrong time greatly increases. There's a scene in the movie "A Christmas Story" where the dad is in the basement trying to fix a blown fuse. A constant litany of thinly-veiled cursing is wafting up the stairs, and the narrator says "My father worked in profanities the way some men work in oils." Yup. That was my household.