Dealing With Obnoxious, Toxic, And Narcissistic People

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  1. Silvia Benoit

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    Only if we're talking about Ole Joe. Lol
     
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    These narsasist threads are becoming famous now a days.Last site I was on one of smucks put up one about me.Well she needs help I've been gone from that site for 6 months anf she's still posting about me.I must have made a heck of an impression on the nutcase.
     
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    Any of you put these toxic people on ignore then read what they say before logging in?:p I did with one and then realized it was foolish. Curiosity got to me.
     
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    You tell em boss I'm so mad I can't.:D
     
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    I think the mayor in the town of Schitts Creek was probably a narsasisist,
    " if your looking for an ass to kiss that would be mine" .
     
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    I agree that self-preservation comes first. I read a book on spirituality once that had a "Prayer of Separation" in it that said you commend the person to God's care, you wish all the best for that person, but you remove yourself from association with them. You don't have to have any big confrontation or public announcement about this, you just quietly stop socializing with them.
     
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    I would hope he / she sees a psychologist instead of a pastor.
    I had a friend who was as obnoxious as a child demanding candy....He was as honest and giving as he was impossible; he never understood why the ladies didn't want to date him after the first time. He died alone at the young age of 49.
     
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    Well, along with humorous can come obnoxious and we have dvd movies that have both. I have a very humorous side that can become obnoxious at times. Doesn't bother my wife at all. Bothers her sister, but her sister is much more "straight-laced" than my wife is.
     
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    A very good heart person in my group (she is the first to offer a hand to anybody in need) is rarely invited to parties in our friends' homes.
    Wondering why this happens....I asked around; the answers were, all, almost identical: "Regardless of the subject discussed she always find the way to be the one with better info. / solutions and she manages to make herself the center of the conversation and we have to hear -againnnnnnnnn- all her vicissitudes. "
    People recognize her good heart but in a public place is a lot easier to move away from her.
     
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    I remember a Christmas Party, that a co-worker of my wife, put on. We went, and when I went into the house, it was a pretty dead Christmas Party! People sitting around and talking very low and no music at all playing. Standing between the living room and kitchen, I said (sort of loudly), "I thought this was a party!". That was the statement that Kevin Bacon used when he arrived at the Senior Dance in the movie Footloose. Anyway, apparently, everyone liked what I said, including the co-worker/home owner, because some Christmas music was put on and people were no longer whispering to each other. I asked the co-worker if she had any "party" music and she said "no", so I brought my CD's in from the vehicle. AC/DC, Boston, Heart and Deep Purple. The "partygoers" loved it. When we left, the co-worker/home owner looked at wife and I at the door and said "thanks Cody!" and we said "thank you for the party".

    IOW, I was a hit and wife and I loved it!
     
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    @Cody Fousnaugh
    Dealing With Obnoxious, Toxic, And Narcissistic People
    :rolleyes:o_O
     
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    Cody...

    And what does your "party experience have to do with toxic people?
     
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    Guess you don't feel like those that attended that Christmas Party, including my wife's co-worker/home owner that put it on. Everyone stared having fun, once I showed up! Remember, the couple that put the party on said "thanks" to me.
     
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    I have no clue as to where this discussion is heading so I will just say I mostly don't deal with obnoxious, toxic and/or narcissistic people. There are enough people without these traits to more pleasantly deal with. In those instances where I found one in my path (e.g., a boss or supervisor), I ignored, sidestepped or got away from them. This is to say their personality disorders are not my problem unless I happen see them hurting someone else. All of this does, of course, recognize there can be great differences in what people consider obnoxious and/or toxic. Narcissism speaks for itself.
     
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    Well, Silvia, there are those that don't like outgoing people. I've been taken as "toxic" before, but wife and I don't care. Wife knows how I am, and have been for the 21 years we've been together, and loves it.
     
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