This is from 1955 and will be helpful to all the women on SeniorsOnly. Let's make the world a better place. Pay special attention to the last admonition. A Good Wife's Guide Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed. Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dust cloth over the tables. During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him. Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first – remember his topics of conversation are more important than yours. Don't greet him with complaints and problems. Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice. Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him. A good wife always knows her place.
Yeah, Andelin republished. Ms. Andelin spent a lot of her time trying to “enrich” California marriages and a lot of that list is in some book she published in the 60’s. One of the things she wrote that was probably the most repeated was her stance on what a man’s primary function is: Make a living. To widely paraphrase, he shouldn’t be expected to make his wife the first priority because due to his nature, he has other stuff on his mind. Note: hence the rationalizations and ravings of a cheating husband. To the list in general, it’s been floating around since the 80’s as more of a gag type of thing than anything else. Still, as it was in a majority of states in the 50’s, a married woman wasn’t allowed her own bank account nor to own real property or buy a car on her own so maybe temporarily using the steps listed above a woman could bribe her way to get what she wanted. A good meal, a wife waiting at the door with cocktail in hand and a little something or other later on in the evening stood as a prime negotiation technique it seems.
hmmmmm…..maybe I’m on the wrong planet but the honey do’s get done because she loves me. Besides, I really do not care for a bunch of fluff and attention. I guess I’m about like the dogs. Throw me a bone and I’m all in.
Even though I wasn't tagged in this thread reeking of toxic testosterone, I submit this short video in response ... Broken Peaches tend to lose their sense of humor.
50's? Heck, try the early 70's! I went to my bank to apply for a charge card. I was the one with the well-paying job; I was the one paying most of the bills at the time. My husband was going to school for his doctorate; his income consisted of his GI Bill benefits, most of which went for tuition and books. The bank gave me a credit card, yes, but it was in my husband's name. I got a duplicate card for my use, but it, too, had only his name on it. I was asked on several occasions, " Do you have permission to use this card?" AAARRRGGGHHHHH!!!!!@