What Would You Do ?

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  1. Hedi Mitchell

    Hedi Mitchell Supreme Member
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    Some may be real, some thought up. Think it would be fun to create this for the forum. We may want to stick to point as it could get too lengthy. Your choice.

    Woman in late 40's, divorced, one grown child. Woman is a career student, so much so she used her parent SS and signature in order to obtain many many student loans. Her mother had only agreed to one loan that she co signed on. Now the daughter is default loans total in the thousands, Her mother is retired but taking care of ill husband
    What would you do, finding out this late in your life that you were lied to, that your signature was forged , and your SS nbr used for years by one you children. And they see no problem with any of this.
     
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    Hedi, looking very forward to any replies you get to this.
     
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    I love my children more than my life, but if one of them were to pull such a stunt I would contact the authorities and press charges against them. Don't do the crime if you can't do the time.
     
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    my response also.
     
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    I hope I raised my children to be honorable and responsible people; so far, so good. :D
     
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    Ditto.
    I love ya, I forgive ya but there are consequences for being a thief and a fraud.
    Meet Bubba (or Bubbette) your new jail cell friend.
     
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    I would prosecute. I have 2 siblings that would do this, both of whom who stole in one way or another from my mother when she had dementia. Has I known of one situation in a real-time mode, I would have called the police.

    The issue in your scenario, Hedi, is that the parents may have had some culpability in raising such a child and would not prosecute for fear of shining daylight on everyone's dirt. Again, speaking from first-hand experience.
     
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    But the question remains, "what would YOU do?"
     
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    My first sentence above:
     
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    She needs to put a public notice in the paper cutting all financial ties with her. Character and integrity (or lack of) trump blood relations in my book.
     
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    Second case : A neighbors house is on fire. All you really know of them is that they seem the oddity of the neighborhood, and you don't care for the looks of the dad. If the wife and kids are out of the house, and fireman yet to arrive - do you go back into search for the father?
     
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    Yes. But I would put myself at less risk looking for the father than I would if it were the children in there. In other words, it depends on how far the fire has progressed in each case. My instinct would always be to help, but I would be rational enough to know that losing my own life in the process helps no one.
     
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    It depends on how heavy the smoke is and my chance of surviving. Even if the odds were against me, I would risk my life for a child, but not an adult. If the man can't figure out how to get out, then tough titties for him.

    My answer to the first scenario is, "as a mother bringing the child into the world, I retain all rights to take him out." :D
     
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    You always come up with the good ones, Faye! Actually, excellent reply!
     
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    When you say, "don't care for the looks of the dad," do you mean he's ugly or an unsavory character? :p I suppose my thoughts would be that if his wife wasn't running back in for him then why would I? I might approach the house but I'd be cautious and not put myself in danger.
     
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