The object of appreciation is that wherever I go, there are people talking about other people. They’re not trying to solve any problems nor attempting to come up with a solution that might help someone to be a better person but rather feeding on and passing around all the negativity they can and what’s more, behind the backs of those they’re feeding off of. No matter what, I’m always ready for criticism provided that it is constructive. As an example: I have had a couple of people tell me I’m too old to train as hard as I do. That’s destructive and I do not pay any attention to it albeit I do say thank you. On the other hand, I’ve had a few pros show me where I can improve my training which is constructive and I can act on it accordingly. If, all the parties involved simply said what they had to say behind my back, who would benefit either way? They wouldn’t be helping themselves because gossip has never been known to help anyone. It wouldn’t help me because I wouldn’t know where my downfalls might be unless I discovered them on my own which is hard to do because once something bad turns into a habit, it is no longer or barely distinguishable from the good.
Old folks are the ones that NEED to train. But train correctly for their present condition. If you stop, you lose muscle and have to start over. If you push past from where you've declined you can tear muscle in a bad way. voice of experience.
The one place a person can go to find toxic and obnoxious people and full blown narcissism is the gym. It’s one thing to have an exaggerated ego but quite another when it affects everyone around them. The, “look at me” folks who continually act like models in front of the mirrors are sometimes hilarious but that doesn’t really bother anyone and I guess that’s what mirrors are for. It’s the guys and gals who walk around telling people how they should train whilst leaving their weights laying around for someone else to pick up that is a little distressing. The thing is, a lot of the unwanted information and lack of gym etiquette is coming from oldsters. Many of them occupy a station for lengthy periods of time whilst talking on their cell phones and some have been known to fall asleep whilst sitting on a piece of equipment and yes, do not know how to put their toys back in the toy box. I guess, that’s where another oldster, like me, can get away with telling another senior to either go away with the advice, pick up behind themselves or even nudge them when they’ve fallen asleep or interrupt a cell phone call to free up a piece of equipment that myself or other people are waiting to use. I guess, to be honest with myself, doing such thing might classify me as an obnoxious or toxic person but in my defense, a couple of trainers have come to get me and asked me for “favors” because they really aren’t comfortable with correcting old folks.
Talk about beating a dead horse to death. This thread has been utterly ridiculous from the outset. Using labels only gives the one labeled permission to behave as such. Which is why responsible psychologists are seldom heard to label anyone. This can go on and on and get nowhere fast. But, do carry on folks, it seems to give so many such satisfaction.