For years we all have contributed to Cody and his SIL and other family problems. The problem lies with his wife who refuses to hurt little sis feelings, so he gets stuck with her. No amount of replying, or ideas have or will ever help- Adios amigo on this subject..moving on down the hallway
My baby sister just emailed me. She said that since this year, she is turning 70 and brother Joe is turning 80, she is throwing a birthday bash. I wrote back, why are you celebrating the fact that you are so old? I guess, in June, I will be heading over to Minneapolis. Keep my spot warm.
Just found out the SIL isn't visiting us on the 15th after all. She told us that her Timeshare will cost too much. We told her that Timeshares, in Vegas, have raised their costs due to how much Vegas hotels/casinos are getting for a stay. Guess she thinks the cost of a Timeshare in Vegas will go down, but coming on Spring/Summer, that definitely isn't going to happen. So, don't know when, or if, she will make it here before we move. We didn't tell her about our June trip to Carson City/Reno area.
And now, yesterday, found out that BIL (wife's brother) won't be visiting us, like he thought he might. Not sure why, but we think he might come out if we told him we'd pay for his airfare. Unfortunately, that just isn't going to happen and something that we won't consider. We need the money for our trip in June and for moving in September. Don't know, and she doesn't either, when SIL will come out, if she comes out at all. Good thing is, now we aren't buying a sofa-bed yet.
Every now and then a couple of Jakes siblings has filled their quota of me ignoring them, so for past 15 years or so, they started being more civil. At least they make it a comedic sarcasm now. We don't eat pork or 'unclean food', because we ' thought ' it was sinful, so now that we aren't certain. But now afraid if I do eat 'unclean food, it will make something bad happen. Jakes oldeast bro is my age 74, last visit they had a pig on the pit, so he got real close to my face and said, " can you eat chicken ',you can eat chicken ,can't you"? I g even closer to his face and said yep I can eat chicken. I don't tell them what to eat or not to eat, so lately all is fine after my letter I sent to the whole family. The went nuts about not celebrating xmas since 1984. Took them a couple decades to get over that one. His sister said I can't beleive ypou don't celebrate the birth of Christ. I told her I can't beleive she doesn't even know Hid B-day,but we do know, it is not Dec.25th.
Twice now my wife's older sister has said to us in Instant Messaging, "What's happened to our family?" and "We aren't family anymore?". Last night she sent us an old picture of the immediate family and asked both of the above questions. My wife's mom, who was in the picture, died around 10 years ago. Her father and step-father died way before then. During the Pandemic, the older sister called us almost every night, but we ended up getting tired of hearing from her. This sister has more friends in So California than we've ever had. Currently, we will talk to her on the phone once in a while, but apparently it's not enough for her. She told us last night, in Instant Messaging, "You don't talk to me on the phone anymore.", which is absolutely not true. We talked to her two weeks ago. We didn't tell her when we drove to Carson City and Reno, because it wasn't going to be a "fun" trip nearly as much as a "do we want to move here" trip. We did tell her we were going to Prescott, AZ for the same reason, but she must've forgotten. She absolutely hates being at home, we already know that. Whatever else is going on, we don't know. Age (going on 81). Two of her adult grandkids now live outside So. California. We told her, on Instant Messaging, "Family and things change". If it was up to her, we'd be living in her apartment with her..........which would never happen, let alone us moving back to So California. She plans on coming to Vegas, with a friend, in December during the National Finals Rodeo, but we don't want to see her during that time. However, she insists. If she does, and I'm well enough to do some things, we simply will try and not to see her. To us, it's not being cruel to her, it's just that that time in December is for US. Currently, until we know what's wrong with me, we don't even know what's going to be happening to me in December.
It is kind of like the aging alone situation. We all worry about that. My business partner's daughter sort of attached to me after her mom died and has stayed in contact for maybe 25 years. The problem is that she can talk on the phone for HOURS. I like her but we both can talk people's ears off and I want center stage Anyway, all calls go to voice mail these days and so I can pick and choose when I have time to let her talk. Ya gotta do what ya gotta do. You can always use health reasons as to why you guys can't get together. Don't get too specific. You would rather not talk about it till all the tests are done or something. But you don't feel up to it and wife needs to help you? My mom used to have us go ring the doorbell when she wanted an excuse to get off the phone.
Good reply, Mary. Actually we've told her, thru iPhone Instant Messaging, that we were just getting ready to eat, and we were. We've also told her that we were watching a rodeo on tv and we were. My wife doesn't want to hurt her feelings, but, unfortunately, that seems to be the only way to stop her. She simply doesn't want to hear the word "no". She just seems to be very upset, not only about our lack of communications with her, but her brother's as well. He simply doesn't like talking to her and has told us just that. She wants the whole family to be "family" and that has changed.
What if you set ONE date a year. We have a family reunion every couple of years because the oldest generation is getting older. It is kind of fun although I hate to travel now. But I don't want to have it here
We've had a few family reunions in Las Vegas some 15 years ago. My wife's family (her mom, sisters, brother and nieces) would drive in and we'd fly in from Colorado. It was in December during the National Finals Rodeo. Unfortunately, her family lost interest in rodeo and those get-togethers stopped. Summers are just too hot here for them to come or for us to do anything outside. However, we have done a few Family Zoom meetings online with them. It's been our choice not to, but we haven't been back to So California, where my wife's family lives, since we left in May of 2002. We simply don't know what is going on with my wife's sister, other than she is going on 81 years old. Perhaps we spoiled her with all of the phone calls we took with her during the Pandemic. Sometimes families "fall apart" in some respects and that's what has happened here and SIL doesn't like that at all. If it was up to SIL, wife and I would be living with her in her apartment or very, very close to where she lives. Neither will happen and my wife fully agrees with that.