When Friend Or Family Member Refuses To Understand

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  1. Cody Fousnaugh

    Cody Fousnaugh Supreme Member
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    Well, sort of like my SIL, your idea of "offensive" is very different than mine. Now, OTOH, I don't always ask a health question, but he was coughing so heavily, wife and I both wondered. Since the Pandemic, and even before, it just seems like a lot of folks go out for a meal or shopping sick. If we are in a grocery store and hear someone coughing or wearing a mask, we get out of that aisle immediately.

    Now, how do you feel about hearing someone, most likely a young guy, sitting at a table next to you, and dropping the F bomb a lot while talking to others at his table? Do you want to say something to him? I remember, years ago, I was at lunch with a lady friend and the people at the table next to us were cussing like mad. My friend looked over and said "I came here with my friend for a nice lunch, not to hear the garbage taking you are doing, so please stop." Guess what, they stopped the cussing.

    As for a person telling us "fighting a cold for 3 days", we would immediately ask for a TO-GO box, pay and leave. Actually we done that once. We had already ordered our dinner and an older man behind my wife was coughing a lot. When our food came, was ask for TO-GO boxes, paid and immediately left.
     
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    This reminds me of a fight I had in a restaurant 55 years ago over 'supposed' foul lango..
    My first cousin and I were sitting at a booth enjoying a conversation about the Atlanta Ryheim Section concert we had went to 'Champaine Jam' in Atlanta.
    A young couple seated at booth behind us got offended by the word 'bugger' I had used referring to a band member. I said, "he was a cute little bugger".
    He jumps up with a mean look on his face, said 'you need to watch your filthy mouth', we're trying to eat" I impolitely told him ," I'm not talking about the buggers in your nose, I was talking about a cute little drummer".
    He then told his wife, whatever, to beat my ass. She got up and I told her what was going to happen.
    First off, I'm going to let you pass the first lick so best make it a good one, then after I stomp your ass, you're going to jail for attacking me. Now go sit down and don't listen to him.
    She slapped the heck out of me and my prediction came true, the people sitting around saw her slap me and they told the police how it happened.
    I was raised part time in the woods in a family brothers, male cousins, only 2 other girls were several years younger, so boys were all I had to play and fight with growing up.
     
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    My mother was British. I use the word "bugger" all the time. I say that people get things "buggered up." I also see people light up a fag and eradicate a spelling error with a rubber.

    I wonder what those folks thought you meant. They'd get really offended if I asked if they wanted me to knock them up in the morning...the silly little buggers.
     
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    LOL, I think he was just in a bad mood and took it out on Mary 'my cousin' and I.

    John, speaking of incorrect spelling, I spelled it wrong, it was booger, like in the nose.
    I like British humor; I watch them on YouTube sometimes reacting to our food or music. You ever do that?
     
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    Nah, I got enough of it growing up...excepting Monty Python.
     
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    You sound like a GA gal alright! My dad used to say, "Now baby, don't go starting any trouble. But be sure to finish it." :D:D:D
     
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    Yes we did learn how to protect ourselves, huh? I won't talk about the one I lost, :D She was from Georgia too.:oops:
     
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    I can't fathom asking a coughing stranger at a restaurant why they were coughing. Lots of folks cough frequently, especially during the winter. I always cough in my elbow and face away from others. I see most folks doing the same thing with little kids an exception.

    Most restaurants have tables or booths separated enough so coughing shouldn't be an issue. I am more concerned that the cooks are sanitizing their hands frequently or table service is using clean rags and bleach solution to wipe the tables, but I will never asked. I go out to eat for enjoyment and seeking conflict or personal invasive discussions, just isn't my thing.

    If I ever get paranoid about others coughing in public, I will stay home.
     
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    The way we see it is: Way, way too many people are going to grocery stores and restaurants sick. We know that some people have to go grocery shopping, because they don't want to order online, and they need food. Same goes for going to a restaurant.

    I've had a number of years working in both Senior Healthcare and in Emergency Medical, and when someone is coughing during the winter, it definitely can mean they are sick. Our immune systems sure aren't nearly as good as they use to be. We've got all of the Covid vaccines and a Senior Double-Dose Flu shot, but...........

    As far as "going out to eat for enjoyment", that is extremely hard to do when someone sitting at a booth or table close by is continuously coughing. However, I guess it wouldn't bother you at all and you would continue eating.
     
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    Not to disagree, but that statement is false, at least in part. There are several other reasons why people cough, during the winter, especially seniors. Seniors cough for other reasons, at a much higher rate, than being ill from a virus. Ever heard of COPD or GERD just to name a couple of very common causes?
     
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    We know that. When my SIL and her daughter were here, her daughter coughed some and told us it was due to allergies. However, my SIL coughed a whole lot and she told us it was a sinus problem and her doctor told her that the coughing wasn't contagious. As much as she was coughing, wife and I were really starting to wonder if she was telling us the truth about her doctor. I mean she really, really wanted to see us and might tell us anything to do that.

    We simply don't trust folks that are coughing or wearing a mask, and where we are living currently, we are seeing a lot of folks wearing masks again.
     
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    Fortunately, I'm not vaccinated so my immune system is probably strong enough to handle it.
     
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    They are wearing mask because there are not one not two but at least 4 types of bad bugs going around now.
    Remember when you mentioned your sil was sick, well 6 people in my family have been sick one with a 1 year old. My daughter my son in Texas, oldest granddaughter, all 'just getting well'.
    Like I told you before, when it comes to me or Jake being laid up or laid out, then I tell them, I'll set the tent up for you and a potty, nobody comes i n the house and visit on far end of the porch.
    They were all to be here this Friday, all canceled. Talking to daughter on phone yesterday I told her, seldom does anyone visit during the spring,summer or fall. She agreed and apologized.
    of course, I love them all and would love seeing them, but there is some bad stuff going around.
     
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    I am puzzled why if you knew that, you would make a post citing your medical credentials and then make a statement as if it were fact. There are those seniors that might view this public forum and based on your post, believe if someone coughs in the winter, the chances are they are sick with a spreadable disease. You could make the same statement as your opinion, without stating your credential as a former emergency medical person and no harm would be done.
     
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    I have a friend who just came down with bacterial pneumonia. I told her to get some n99 masks and spray them inside and out with colloidal silver and gse to protect her from more infections and other folks from hers. Her doctor has her on antibioticso_O and I recommended probiotics daily
    I NEVER get sick and here I finally did.:rolleyes: A winter cold that was pretty bad. Some might call it a flu. I never cared what to call it. Common colds are actually covid viruses but since 'covid' no one catches a cold anymore.:confused:
    If you keep your immunity up one will probably get better. If you prep, you can stay away from others until you are.
     
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