Do You Get Envious Of What Others Have?

To be 100% honest...........yes I do! I'd like us (wife and I) to have:
Two homes. One in a warm climate to live in during the winter and one by a lake, with a dock and a brand new boat tied up to that dock.
A nice "styling" car. Like a Sebring Touring Convertible.
Have the money to travel wherever. In other words, not have to worry about how much we spend.
Be able to find a nice church, that doesn't judge a person when they've decided to take their boat out on a lake, instead of attending a Sunday AM Service during a beautiful summer morning. Yes, this actually happened to us. Being able to "tithe" a nice amount to a church.
IOW, have enough money to live totally comfortable on AND definitely some to "party" with.

Heck, I even was envious over my last Director/Supervisor. He had a Bachelors Degree in Business and two Certifications. One in Production and Inventory Control and the other in Purchasing Management. Both from APICS (American Production and Inventory Control Society). A company he worked for, financially helped him get both. APICS is not cheap at all when it comes to taking their classes. Don't know what his salary was, but it was much higher than mine!

I get envious over people that have families and everyone gets along. I have very little family left and my wife's family isn't very close at all.

In my younger years, I would have loved to had a horse and/or cattle ranch/operation in Wyoming or Montana. For those that have them, that was definitely in my dreams years ago, but not today.

 

I think it is normal for a person to be envious of something particularly for the material things that others have. Even if one is already satisfied with what he has but here comes another who has more, envy cannot be denied. Maybe that is man's difference with animals because animals have contentment while humans have none. Give them an inch and they would want a foot.

But in fairness to me, my envy is controlled. Besides, in times when envy would surface in me, I always remind myself of the blessings that I have. We have a good car but some of my friends have elegant cars. What the heck, I can go to where their cars can bring them, right? And I believe that you cannot win them all and you cannot be the best. So I try to live my life happily with what I have.

 

I'm not envious of people's possessions. I have what I want for the most part. I don't want two houses or a fancy car. I've had a very good life, traveled, ate in very expensive restaurants...still do when I visit my kids.

I don't have to watch every cent I spend...I don't waste money but I'm not too worried about it either.

What I am envious of are people that still have their spouses. That's the only thing missing from my life and money won't buy that.

What's the point of having all those things if you don't have anyone to enjoy them with.

I'm also very lucky in the family dept....they are all great people ...every single one of them.

 

I do and don't believe the saying, "Money is the root of all evil". I pretty much believe it's what a person spends that money on, as in like illegal drugs, too much drinking, too much gambling and other things that can ruin a person, their family or their marriage.

Money can do so much for people today. Biggest problem is, it takes money to get money! That is, unless a person is extremely lucky or comes from a very wealthy family. A lot of times people have to sacrifice some things to get the kind of salaries they want.

 

Or hard work and a good education. That's the way my kids did it.

My daughter also married someone from a wealthy family but she makes very good money all on her own.

The wealthy family part will just be a very nice inheritence.

Their great life now wasn't handed to them. They still work hard but plan on retiring at 55 and will have the money to still live very well. My Son in law has good business sense and he's been saving for early retirement since he started working. Also has financial advisors now.

 

I'm with @Chrissy Page on this. Stuff is stuff. I've been poor. I've been very well off. Now I'm comfortable as I have little needs or wants for that matter. But, what I don't have anymore is my husband, or either of my sons, and most of my extended family live states away. You can get stuff, but you never are able to bring back those you love.

When I lost my husband, I purchased many things. Some because he told me to, and some because I needed them, and some because I had nothing to do. But, with each and every purchase there was little pleasure, because those that would have rejoiced with me were not there to do so anymore.

So yes I envy others that still have loved ones. Sometimes I wish I could get others to see just what they do have.

 

Exactly Ina, I know exactly what you mean and how you feel. I do thing s with my kids but it's not the same as
Doing them with your husband.

Always feel like the 3rd wheel and it's not their fault it's just the way it is.

 

Used to, but not now. What would I do with sudden wealth? Sit around and watch TV. Poke at the computer. I do that now. I do envy young, healthy people.

 

Well not so much materially, but I envy those who have a lot of friends and family. My family keeps me at arms length and I only have a few really good friends...the majority of whom are online. So, yeah, I envy those kinds of things. More money would be awesome though too of course. I don't know, I could probably have what I seek, if I would devote myself to it.

 

The only thing I do envy is those with a loving family and a special friend
Love is a many splendid thing to possess

 

Nah, too busy trying to get rich. I am happy for people when good things happen and pray for those who need help too. I read in the newspaper or a postal worker who prayed to help people when she heard an ambulance go by and I started to do the same. I know how it feels when the EMS is for you or your loved ones since my Mother had close calls and needed an EMS. I got happy when I began shopping at Walmart with frozen tatter tots and fries at 2.74 for 2 pounds. When I was growing up we lived very comfortably like my Grandfather gave me a brand new car for my High School graduation present. We had weekends with family and now my cousins helps me a lot.

 

That's the way it is through life, sometimes your up, sometimes your down. Sometimes your the beneficiary and at times the benefactor.

Of course there are people that are always poor and those that are always Rich.

We really aren't even born equal, how you make out is up to you, luck, environment, and a host of other factors.

I understand what you mean about when you hear an ambulance, I've been through that a few times.

 

I got envious of my last Director/Supervisor. He had a Bachelor Degree and was certified in Purchasing, Inventory Management and Production (certifications from APICS). His Bachelors got him a descent salary and a company helped him pay for the APICS courses. Heck, I'm envious of my own wife in that she has so much more computer experience than I do, plus two AA Degree's and a Bachelors. My resume looks "dull" compared to hers!

Let's see, in having enough money, a couple can be "snowbirds" and maintained both home easily. Retirement just seems to be so much more fun when there is plenty of money to have that fun with. A retired person's health can be really taken care of better with "plenty of money" to spend on healthcare.