Not keen on loud people Joe, but I do like a laugh so I have me moments of not so quiet but never LOUD
Not real loud, but not real quiet either. I'm a former "Rocker", so I'm suppose to like/love loud music and loud people. I still crank-up the music some, but I'm not as loud as I was when I was younger. I can/do raise my voice octave up some when there is loud noise in the area, like a dishwasher, clothes washer going. My wife will say, "why are you yelling?" (she basically only has one voice octave of talking). I will say, "I'm not yelling, I'm just talking above the noise so you won't ask me what I just said". Also, very hard for wife and I to be around too quiet of people AND people with little-to-no "sense of humor". One thing for sure, neither of us are the "library" type of people. WAY to quiet!
I'm complex I suffered terrible shyness in by younger days. These days, sometimes quite, sometimes louder.
In person, I'm quiet. In type, I'm loud and ongoing. The reason is, in person, the conversation moves faster than I can think to respond. And, in person, I get extremely irritated when people cut me off or ignore what I'm saying.
Most people cannot abide a silence in a conversation, and will rush to fill it in. As you learn on TV, a good detective will remain silent and let the perp talk. Listening is more powerful than speaking. A marriage is unique, because before hand, we take a holy vow, to love, honor and cherish each other....in sickness and in health....for better or for worse. That covers our whole life, together. These thing show up at various times in our years together, and are different for each of us. Marriage is a life time conversation, of sorts, and I thank God for my Wife, and still love her dearly. As we grow older, we try to cut each other some slack. We've gotten to the point where we finish each other's sentences, and take the words from each other's mouth......so at times it's like we are talking to ourselves! Like @Ike Willis said, talking one at a time, seems like a lost art, in today's world.
You are unique Shirley . I have only ever come across two people in my life who never divulge confidences. It's part of human nature to divulge information to feel part of a group off either friends or work colleagues. It enables most to fit in. I have no doubt you are genuine though Shirley
I totally agree @Joe Riley and @Ike Willis. As the saying goes, only fools rush in. I consider my self lucky in my husband too.
I'm quiet and a good listener too. I like to let people finish their thoughts before responding or not. I've always been that way even though most would say that I was shy especially during my childhood years. I always found it amusing when people try to overtalk or outtalk each other getting louder as the conversation continues.
I learned a long time ago the hard way that the best way to lose two friends is to tell one what the other said about them.