It doesn't matter if I know your BIL or not...I still wish him and his lady friend lots of joy and happiness and a long life together....and I would think that anyone who cared about him would wish the same for him.
It's hard for me to understand why either of you cared if your rodeo friends accepted her or not. My parents didn't care for my husband but So what, I married him anyway...I'm not going to marry someone just to please my friends or family. I also find it strange SHE had to change even though she's happy about it. Everybody is different so I guess I don't really have to understand you and you're wife either. It's your life!
It’s your right, but you are just more “positive minded” than we are about him. His sister knows him and I know him. Never married, never lived with a lady and broke off two engagements. Funny thing, he told us he mentioned marriage to her and she said “absolutely not”. Think she would lose some type of Spousal Support, if she did or she simply doesn’t want to marry again. But, if she’s a Christian, “living together” is definitely not part of the that.
Lots of Older Christians live together ....think it's financial for the most part. I don't think it really matters. I think at our age most people in a relationship have had sex before they married and that's a no no also...is it not?
This is us totally, too ! Bobby and I agree on the things that are important, and we are basically a couple of “hermits” living together. We both give each other enough space, and he lets me be me, as I let Bobby be himself. We both treat each other with love and respect, and I feel more safe and cherished than I ever have in my whole adult life. This is a “man song”, but it applies equally well to either a man or a woman, and is one of my favorites, too.
That would actually be an ideal man for me. I'm not looking for anyone to be my Siamese twin..I'd go crazy. Yes, having similar beliefs is important but after that...you do you're thing and I'll do mine. Sometimes we can do something together we both enjoy or if we have nothing in common like that than we can give up a day of our lives and do what the other wants. I went Target shooting with my husband sometimes, not because I loved It but because he did. Hunting trips he went with friends, although I did go on one or two if it was at a lodge or something nice.
We absolutely love our marriage and compatibility! Same age area and Generation. I couldn’t be married to someone who had many different interests than I did. My wife’s sister was married years to a guy that didn’t like her spending money for vacations, and thus didn’t go with her. He didn’t want to spend time with his adult kids and grandkids, so she went by herself. When he got seriously sick, he didn’t want her help at all, When he got a little better, he moved out of the condo to his own apt. To me, this wan’t even a marriage! Nobody has to agree with this, but when a couple have many of the same interests, marriage is so much better. To us, the word “love” and “respect” just aren’t enough.
Well, SIL will say that she was in a good marriage. If she was, then why did her husband move out to his own apartment?? Heck, the lady even took her wedding set off and I was the only one that noticed it. Couples can have whatever kind of marriage they want, and there are different types of marriages out there. Like, there are couples that believe in “girls night out” and “boys night out”, neither of which we would ever do. Whenever I think of the words relationship or marriage, the word “togetherness” always comes to mind, IOW, things in common.
That works for you, and other things work for other people ...there is no right or wrong in this. All that matters is that you love each other and are happy. Haven't you heard the saying...opposites attract?
True. And, I just read an article about married couples who have little in common make great couples just as much as those that have a lot in common. Time to say “I’m sorry” to you and the others.