When To Say Something And When Not To?

There are those people that keep most "thinking/thoughts" to themselves and those that will say something about someone or something. Of course, many times, the person with the "thinking/thoughts" has to think to themselves, "is it safe for me to say something" or "how will the person take what I'm saying to them".

There have been people attacked, and even shot/killed, for saying something to someone about something and those that will feel very hurt over something that is being told them. Thing is, a lot of times, a person will not know how a person will react to what is being said to them. Hurt, anger or, if lucky, complete understanding.

A number of times, people won't "think" before speaking, but "thinking" can take too much time.

Any thoughts?

 

I don't think so, lol!

Actually, I get what you said, thing is, for me, I do try not to offend, but s__t happens. It's just another world when you are typing text to, only God knows for sure, who is on the other end. I'm betting if all of us here got together in person, at least I would be "thinking" wow he/she isn't anything like I thought they'd be.

The other thing I've always thought, how nice it is "not" to be interrupted when I have something to say. I find that situation hard to find when talking with people in person or on the phone. Seems that "listening" is kind of out of style, or maybe just that fact people are going deaf, totally self-centered, not ever taught the skill of "listening". I don't know, I practice it, and by practicing it, you can imagine, I don't get to say much in the offline world. People find a good listener and yahoo, they want to be around me.

Now I know why I love talking online so much, I get to say something, even if it's wrong

 

So many things have changed, in recent years, that in our generation, Baby Boomers, it can be extremely hard to understand. I wasn't part of the Woodstock/Hippy thing, so the long "rock-star" look definitely wasn't me. Back then, the heaviest metal bands, for-to-say, were Steppenwolf and Iron Butterfly. Today, very, very different. No Hip-Hop or Rap either. Although, there was a major drug problem, just like we have today.

Today, if you see and young lady, or even an older one that could be a mother of a young lady, that has multi-colored hair, so you, maybe, want to ask them "why?". And, the "why?" is even more when the older lady has her hair that way. I wonder if this is just a trend, because it seems like so many teens in the big cities want that look and now it's spreading to the small cities/towns.

Like multi-colored hair on an older lady, can sometimes be figured out, without saying a word to them about it. And, how is that? I don't know about the past, but there are those mothers, and maybe grandmothers, who are in competition with their daughters/granddaughters. "Well, she gets all of the attention, while I get none" the mother or grandmother could think. "So, I'm just going to change that." And then, there is pressure from the daughter/granddaughter for the mom/grandmother to change. "You need to get with it, mom (or grandmother). I have girlfriends that their moms have multi-colored"

Now, there are those that will go passive, with the "I don't care" or "it's none of my business", but there is the other side that would really like to know.

 

Now, this thread is still about "when and when not, to say something", but we have a great niece, that after spending a few years in the Army and being married twice (men), proclaimed to her mother, while she was home on Leave, that she believed she was bi-sexual. She is now married to another young girl and is totally lesbian. She barely keeps in contact with the family. Wife and I very, very much wonder "what happened to her". When she was young, wife, myself and her grandmother, went to numerous Western Horse Shows she was in with her mom. Back then, in 2000 and 2001, she was very different than today.

Different people have questions about friends and/or family members that they want to ask, but sometimes afraid to. Do I say something (ask) and possibly start a war within the family or just "keep in a curious state of mind for the rest of my life?"

 

"It's better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and remove all doubt."

 

That could be very, very true, Beth. Only thing is, I've never been one to remain silent. Bad or good, just the way I am. But, there are times that I do stay silent (and those times even shock me).