Being Suspicious

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  1. Tony Nathanson

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    I am a very suspicious person by nature; I spend a lot of time questioning other people's motives. suspicious.gif
     
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    Denial is a universal survival mechanism. It's crude, the survival it affords is an illusion, and it can consume a lot of energy, but given one's inability to effect change, it's kinda hard to cast aspersions at. It's emotional duct tape.
     
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    What all suckers we would be also broke and homeless. :oops: Damn telemarketers.
     
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    I am suspicious of everything and everybody these days including my own behavior. ;)

    I think my 52 years a widow is a masterclass in suspicion. I suspect a man is cheating on me before I even know who he is. :D

    I am working on my OSD, obsessive suspicion disorder, but progresses is slow. Just when I think I am gaining more trust in others, Mr. Risk calls me on the phone. I mean, come on man, with a first name like Spam, who wouldn't be a bit suspicious? :mad:
     
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    In this day and time, many of us are overly cautious or suspicious, with good reason. My by line is still- trust but verify.
    I have learned over the years that instead of paying so much attention to what a person says, focusing on what they are not saying is closer to the truth. Just ponder on that a bit, until you get the meaning .
     
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    I have written many times before that other than my wife, there is a degree of mistrust I have with everyone.

    That said, even when Yvonne smiles and says Honey, I am highly suspicious that those actions will lead to “can you do”(?) and not something far more preferable.
     
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    If someone says anything negative about me or my family, I become suspicious of their motives and ask myself three questions:

    1. Why are they telling me this?
    2. What do they have to gain by telling me this?
    3. Do they have my best interests at heart in telling me this?
     
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    For me, the issue of who to trust is super important. Here is my way to decide:

    1. Do I trust this person’s heart?
    2. Do I trust this person’s judgment?
     
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    I kinda lean toward the summation given in Jer. 17:9.
    The heart is deceitful above all else and terribly wicked. Who can know it?
     
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    I think Jeremiah makes a good point here. The heart in some people may be all that he says. But I lean toward using my intuition about someone's heart and judgment before I trust them on some issue.
     
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    LOL
    My husband got me a surprise present, delivered from amazon, yesterday. A sobakawa pillow. I tried it out and it was perfect!
    Normally he doesn't get me presents because, his taste and mine are quite different. But I had mentioned that I thought I needed this.
    So I got up and said, "Come 'ere!" and started walking to him to give him a hug.
    He didn't move.
    Not sure if he was having balance issues or if he remembered my cane....
     
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    So, you're gonna make me look something up.
     
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    Okay, I've done my research. Sobakawa pillows are filled with buckwheat hulls, but when I research buckwheat hulls, I come up with this.

    Buckwheat.jpg
     
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    These pillows are a bit like sleeping on a solid surface--not a fluffy pillow. But you can arrange the hulls to fit your head, neck, ear...and it stays till you change the arrangement.
    You either love them or hate them.
     
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