This may be moved,but did not want to create a new thread. There are several people that have died before me, that I wish I could ask a question to, or make comment to - such as the following My mother- what really happened the night you died?- Questionable To a long time BF- did you ever really forgive me ? Cancer To my beloved ex son in law - why, did you think we would love you less ? Suicide To my nephew - who always asked me as a kid, for just 5 more minutes to finish something. Couldn't you ha Ed waited just five more minutes? Suicide To my BIL, who was ,so much to us all- Why did you never mention your addiction all our long talks?-cardiomyopathy and alcoholism My MIL- Why did you and dad never address the the evil that lurked in your oldest? Diabetic issues To my FIL- you tried hard to leave things in order before you left this earth, and you forgot one important detail that messed up your entire plan - old age CHF 92 Wish I had them all sitting around the table, smiling and full of answers. Rip
Last night I watched a documentary on Prime Video called "Take Me Out Feet First," about medically-assisted dying. I must say, it was both fascinating and extremely sad to watch, and amazing that people in their last days on earth decided to be a part of a documentary. Here's some info if you have any interest... https://www.outfeetfirst.com/ If you have Amazon Prime, it is free to watch. CLICK HERE!
I decided to skip the video. I’ve been wrestling with my thoughts and feelings about death for a long time, and here’s what I’ve come up with so far. I’m afraid of the dying process because of the potential pain involved. I don’t fear the concept of death itself. My main emotion about it is more regret that I didn’t get to do a lot of things. I’m an atheist, so I don’t fear the idea of hell. I wasn’t around before 1966, and I’m okay with that. If I’m not around in 2040 when robots are fighting wars, I’m okay with missing that too. I’m glad our generation got to experience life both with and without the internet. But, the way things are heading now, there are going to be a lot of things in the future that we might be better off not experiencing. I love dogs but those robotic dogs designed for combat give me nightmares!
I see your new here- Welcome Hanna. Avatars of some kind are appreciated - for me at least. Hope you enjoy the Forum.
Hey @Hanna Lopez! Welcome! I helped in hospice here and found that they keep patients pain free as much as possible. Of course, if you are like me you already have pain. No need to wait for death. Good news, I found even though I won't do a lot of bucket list things (mostly because of cost) there are still things we can do that are pretty good. It is OK you don't believe in God. HE believes in YOU. I am glad to have experienced internet too and agree with your thoughts of the future. But I don't get into technology much. I am waiting till computers act like they do in Star Trek. Computer! Make me a ham sandwich! We agree totally on dogs. And finally, no one on here can die yet. My daughter took me for dinner at an all-you-can-eat sushi bar in Oshkosh Wisconsin called Sushi Lover. I could not believe it. It is to die for!!! You must all come for dinner!
Update on my brother today,and have not been able to function since. He is much worse now. Weeing in places he should not, talking to those that are not there. Will not sleep at night, paces wanting to go see our parents that have been gone 25 years. I can not wrap- my head around it yet. Constantly trying to keep myself in-tune mentally . probably wont help any, bur least I do try. He goes back to doctor on Wed. my SIL said she would keep me posted.
Adding our prayers and hugs for you and your brother and your family, @Hedi Mitchell . This has got to be a horrible ting to be going through happening to your brother that you love, and can do nothing about it.
I think an upbeat and celebratory event is just what is needed for a final farewell! I understand some will find that disrespectful, but IMO, it is the 'only way to go.' I am not Black, but I appreciate those who have a positive view of the end of this life. I totally believe there is life and life, but I always say if there isn't, I'll never know, so LOL, what is there to fear?
I went through a time when I read many of the New Age material. MacLane was certainly one I followed. I enjoy reading everyone's take on the afterlife. I do believe we are eternal and will have many more experiences. I also believe and look forward to remembering our past.
Heidi ,I'm sorry your brother is not doing well, I've lost two brothers myself. I hope things turn around for y'all.
Sending you a cyber hug, G. I know how upsetting it is to see our siblings going downhill. I hope things go as well as they can for your family.
To All my friends here- thank you so much for your understanding and support.This Forum and Friends is what makes life bearable, for me at least . XXOO