Aging Alone

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  1. Al Amoling

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    I'm aging alone now and don't like it one bit..
     
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    I knew several guys who were abused by their wives/partners and never fought back or reported it. A study I read once found that being abused by a female is more common than being abused by a male partner (55% to 45%). It was years ago and may have changed. The guys were taught from boyhood never to hit a woman, so they allowed themselves to be beaten, usually with vases, coffeepots, and other similar weapons. They could not go to the ER and tell them "My wife beat me up" and still keep sane. Male on female abuse was found to be much more severe, however, and more likely to cause severe injury or death.
     
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  3. Don Alaska

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    I think marriage works best if each partner thinks THEY are contributing more than their share. That way it usually ends up about 50/50.
     
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    My older brother's sister-in-law (his wife's sister) used to beat her husband regularly. She was mean & nasty. People can really suck.
     
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  5. Beth Gallagher

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    I shall whip out my motto once again. :D "Go ahead and hit me, you have to sleep sometime."
     
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  6. Mary Stetler

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    Relationships are different these days. My daughter has an odd one. Other daughter lives with a guy. Married daughter's husband has been overweight and sickly for many years, although he is very nice. Very stressful.
    I don't want to be alone to be a burden to my kids. I could live with one or two of them, maybe, if I stayed out of earshot.
     
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  7. Beth Gallagher

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    I agree about not wanting to burden my kids, Mary. I have heard people say that they "expect" their children to care for them and I just don't get that.
     
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    My parents both died age 45. My wife's father died at 60, but her mother lived to 102. She has told the kids to expect her to be a "rotating burden" (tongue in cheek) as she adores the grandchildren, even the ones that are about grown.
     
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    Least you still got us Al. Hang in there :)
     
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  11. Marie Mallery

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    Are you around other people?
     
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  12. Mary Stetler

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    After just getting over the flu-y thing when I could not do much more than a dishrag, I have started slowly doing exercises and trying to build myself back up. It seems to be helping a bit. If you don't have weights, you can use canned veggies, a half gallon jug of milk...
    You can sit up straight and rock from the seat bones to build up your stomach muscles...you need them for lifting things.
    Stand and do partial knee bends...
    Moving will help with things you need to move to do.
    Just a thought. If you can do some things you might feel better. Or help someone else?
     
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  13. John Houlihan

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    Namaste Mary, the Tibetan monks stay healthy and active into very old age by practicing what are called the "5 Tibetan Rites". The link below describes what the Rites are and how to do them. Very important, older people should proceed with great caution. An example is Rite 2. I tried to do it and found it impossible to raise my legs straight up in the air as shown in the link. So, I had to do Rite 2 by bending my knees. My experience so far is do not overdo any Rite or you will be sore in the following days. It may take me months to reach the target of doing each Rite 21 times, but other google links say it is a great way to stay healthy and active, no matter how old you are. I hope I make it to 21 reps.

    https://www.healthline.com/health/5-tibetan-rites
     
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  14. Mary Stetler

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    Uhmmmmm...I think I will be sick that day. Good luck for yourself, though
     
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