It's a daunting and difficult task for any family member trying to care for the one they love on their own and placing the patient in a facility that specializes in Alzheimer's would be a better option.
I think it's a hard call for any family to have to make. By nature, I think most people would prefer to take care of their parents, but by wisdom, I think you are correct. Ten years ago, my family had a big meeting on how everyone wanted to be buried, how long any life support and if any of us were to need more medical help than we could give each other. I think it's important for families to have that conversation so no one is confused what to do when the time comes. Thank you again for all your information. My Dad and Mom took it to heart and began to look around. They have settled on a place called Penney Farms, which was built by J.C. Penney. It's a beautiful place that has a variety of options. If one of them needed long term care there, my other parent and I can live in a regular single family home in the same community and see them often. I don't know specific prices, but as far as medical care, you pay for whatever you need as time goes along. They also have a Alzheimer care. I would consider remaining there as I get older as well. If you get some free time, perhaps you would like to check it out online: http://penneyretirementcommunity.org/
the only reason I can comment on this. ...I have worked in facilities and private duty... some families kept them in their homes...... shared cost of 24 hrs care...... continuity of care at home was better as there were fewer nurses.... not all families can afford the time and keeping another household going... I loved that work!
I posted this on another thread, but just in case sometime down the road a person is looking for this information and comes across this thread: https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/financial-legal-planning/legal-documents The Alzheimer's Association provides free documents, directions and information one may need if found in this situation. This includes Power of Attorney.
You're only half right Lon. I guarantee you will not like the level of care they receive and it will not be any way near what you would/can provide at home. Their job its to keep them safe, clean, fed and medicated and it will not be to your satisfaction. Unfortunately, there is little choice for most who reach that stage in life. Most facilities do the best they can with the resources they have and some of the staff are very kind and caring, but they can only do so much.
Well Jerry since I have first hand knowledge of both the facilities and patients therein, I strongly disagree. Maybe things are different where you live. I suspect however that good care all depends on $$$$$$ and not family care takers.
Lon, you're entitled to your opinion, but I too have had first hand experience. I just tell it like it is. But you are right about one thing, It is all about $$$$$$ yours in their pocket.