Comment On Past Twenty Years Of Retirement

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  1. Lon Tanner

    Lon Tanner Veteran Member
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    Here I am at the end of June 2020 thinking about the years since I retired. With the COVID19 going on and nothing else I certainly have the time. After the death of my wife Mary in 1989 I decided to work a few more years and then retire, and then did in 2,000 at age 66. I have had a exciting, challenging and rewarding 20 years with no complaints.
     
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  2. Gloria Mitchell

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    Your fortunate Lon to live as you wish and enjoy the fruit of your labor.
    :)
     
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  3. Lon Tanner

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    I do indeed feel quite fortunate.
     
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    ^What Gloria said^
     
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  5. Boris Boddenov

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    Wife and I took early retirement in 1997. I was 53, she a few years older. These 24 years of retirement have been bittersweet. The bitter part is related to health, mostly wife’s health.

    It was sweet at first but in 1999, because of a precancerous lesion, surgeons removed my wife’s entire duodenum, half of the stomach, and the head of the pancreas. This was the Whipple procedure, a major operation from which it took four months for her to recover. Then there were 10 years of sweet retirement.

    But in 2011, she showed the first signs of non-Alzheimer’s dementia. She was still able to maintain the activities of daily living but I ordered her meds and kept them straight. As she worsened, I needed to feed her, help her shower, walk her to the toilet, and clean her.

    In 2013, Visiting Angels sent us caregiving help, 12 hrs. daily x 7 days a week. International Lions loaned us a hospital bed in which we could change her diapers, give sponge baths, and help the visiting nurse insert urinary catheters.

    She died in 2015. The whole experience was purgatory for me and living hell for her. Although I miss her, in 2015 I went back to organized religion and still had my good health. So retirement was sweet again and I’m glad that I enjoyed the health to be her caregiver and keep my promise of no nursing home.

    But 2018 brought the onset of major musculoskeletal issues, all related to the upper extremities. Nothing life-threatening obviously, but severely disabling. So it’s back to bitter mode.
     
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  6. Lon Tanner

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    Wishing great comfort for you Boris. Hang in there!
     
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