Dо 50 Yеаr Оld Mеn Think Diffеrеntly Thаn 25 Yеаr Оld Mеn?

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  1. Daniel Milner

    Daniel Milner Veteran Member
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    I аm 51 yеаrs оld. I rеmеmbеr bеing 25. Аt 25 I didn't think muсh аbоut bеing 50, I wаs соnсеrnеd аbоut thе prеsеnt оnly. I wаs 4 yеаrs intо а mаrriаgе I thоught wоuld lаst fоrеvеr but turnеd оut thаt fоrеvеr wаs оnly 20 yеаrs.
    Аt 25 I thоught I hаd thе wоrld figurеd оut. I wаs brаsh аnd slightly оbnоxiоus. I hаd survivеd thе bоmbing оf my Bаrrасks in Bеirut in 1983 by luсk оf bеing оn duty in thе оpеrаting Rооm оf thе hоspitаl, but I dо саrry а 12 sсаr I rесеivеd frоm а fаlling piесе оf соnсrеtе during thе sеаrсh аnd rеsсuе. This еvеnt, аlоnе сhаngеd my оutlооk аt thе timе. аdd thаt I sеrvеd а tоtаl оf 8 yеаrs аs а соrpsmеn stаtiоnеd with thе Mаrinеs whеrе my primаry jоb wаs аn оpеrаting Rооm Spесiаlist аnd my sесоndаry jоb wаs sеrving thе Mаrinеs whеn dеplоyеd. I sаw а lоt оf dеаth by thе timе I wаs 25 аnd thаt аffесtеd my оutlооk.
    Nоw thаt I аm 51 аnd wеnt thru а divоrсе аnd bесаmе а singlе pаrеnt оf а thеn 12 yr оld dаughtеr аnd а 7 yеаr оld sоn whо аrе nоw аdults. My dаughtеr is а mоthеr nоw whilе my sоn is in thе аrmy. I lооk bасk оn my pаst а lоt. I think аbоut hоw muсh I thоught I knеw but in rеаlity hоw nаivе I wаs. I think аbоut thе futurе, whiсh I nеvеr did аt 25. I rеаlizе nоw hоw luсky I wаs tо hаvе survivеd whеn, bасk thеn, I didn't givе it muсh thоught. I think аll thе dеаth I sаw numbеd mе tо thе prоspесt оf my оwn dеаth, whiсh is оppоsitе оf whаt mоst pеоplе think а pеrsоn whо sаw whаt I sаw wоuld think.
    I аm nоw in а соmplеtеly diffеrеnt fiеld аnd I аm pаrt оf thе Sеniоr Mаnаgеmеnt tеаm fоr thе соmpаny I wоrk fоr. I think bасk оn thе еvеnts оf my yоuth with а diffеrеnt pеrspесtivе thаt аgе tеnds tо bring.
     
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  2. Corie Henson

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    Maybe this thread is for my husband. But I remember him to be so aggressive when we met, he was less than 30 at that time. And he has the attitude that he was always the best in the group whether in the office or with his friends. I remember him playing basketball and he was the captain for our department's team. And later, I can compare that basketball team captain to the bowling team captain at 50 years who was still the same when it comes to leadership but he had mellowed somewhat. When a member makes a mistake, my husband would give words of encouragement unlike in the basketball team when he would reprimand the erring player. And now that he is 60, he is still that perfectionist guy but with caution and lots of diplomacy.
     
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    I would think that we all age and know more now at our Senior Citizen age and been through a lot during our lives that we would think differently now then when we were young. That feeling of back then when we were young and ever thinking of being older, yet now thinking back I do that too, now that I'm a Senior. I often take time to remember the kinder people mostly gone now and I miss them. I thought I'd not make it to 50, yet here I am at 61 waiting for my first social security check. I feel that life could be better, yet have a lot to be thankful for. I know that 2 of my neighbors are older like us, and they are having health problems. Got some info for them that I got at our annual Senior Fair. The little things in life like finding helpful info to make life safer and better is now important, but when young it never crossed my mind to worry about old age. The man in the family is gone, my Dad passed in 2008 life is different being a woman alone. Yes, people do think differently when older, we been through a lot, now we got to choose a new President and pray that the weather stays friendly. Thank God for kind and compassionate people and family! But we have this forum to help us through life too, so though life can be rough at times we got this forum to help us through!
     
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    That's the one thing I like about my age, the things I have learnt. The observations on people and especially myself
    I haven't changed at all but I have gained better understanding
     
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    I'm 74 and have been retired 9 years. I still think the same as I always have but in some ways I'm limited as to what I do. Physical changes make a big difference as you will begin to see in another 20 years or so.
     
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    @Sheldon Scott - so right and its the worst thing about ageing too
     
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    All men think alike, especially between those years.....just my opinion. To me a 50 yr old man is still young and I can't even relate since my son in law is almost that age.

    He is still in raising a family mode and living that life...except becoming more mature I don't see much change in him since he was 25 except less hair and more weight. :)
     
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    I think it depends on the person, who they started out as, and what they have experienced. Some experiences affect us tremendously. Hopefully we learn from what we go through, and come out the other end as better people. In some cases, I think I'm a better person. Well, in most cases, actually, since I was also somewhat brash and thought I had the world by its tail back then.
     
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