Sometimes I truly think my wife's older sister thinks I'm doing this to my wife/her sister. Of course she doesn't realize, or know, that this isn't true at all. My wife doesn't want her sister to know this, but many, many things when I say "no" to her sister, that "no" comes from both of us and I'm not making her sister say "no". Does someone in your family think you are "manipulating" a family member? How do you handle that?
I told my wife this morning, "it just irritates me that she could think that way". Then again, the SIL knows that her sister has changed since being married to me, and she definitely doesn't like the change. The SIL didn't like the guy my wife was married to before me. He smoked and drank a whole lot. In fact, the SIL wound up totally despising her husband before and after he passed away.
She isn't the "confrontational" type. IOW, she doesn't want to hurt her sister's feelings. The relationship we have with this SIL is the main reason we would never move back to So California. Actually, when I met my wife, she was living with her mom in an apartment. I found out that she was planning on moving to southern Nevada and hadn't mentioned a thing to any family member.
Stay away from irritating, nosey, borrowing, condescending, take pity on me, holier than thou, lying, cheating, no good for nothing people, including relatives. End of problem
She's not THAT bad! In fact, we just accepted her "Friend" request on Facebook. But, if she by chance says something neither of us like, I'll "Unfriend" her again. We "Friended" her because we put a Throwback Thursday picture of her on our Facebook page that is from many, many years ago.
She has a very bad cold, but only got one Covid19 vaccine and gets around a lot more people than we do. But, what I really want to know is.........does anyone in your family think that another family member is manipulating another family member. The "thinking" happens quite often within families.
Since you have repeatedly expressed your disdain for this sister-in-law, why do you suddenly care what she thinks about you?
Please don't make us rewind, Mary, I am running low on popcorn. Cody just soften the narrative to say he and his wife have recently accepted the SILs friend request on Facebook. He has gone from being the manipulator to being the manipulated.