Boy Poe was right on and I had to look it up as to where and when I heard this: https://quoteinvestigator.com/2017/0...e%20originator. I first heard this advice decades ago and could be from my mom first of all. Note: the comments about Marvin Gaye and "I Heard It Through the Grapevine""".. It's been said to me that once I hear a "story" it's been changed many times by the time I hear it or any of us for that matter.
We get more lyrics and sayings from ancients than we realize, [ too bad about the way Marvin died, his father shot him].