Should I, Or Should I Not, Speak Out?

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  1. Susan Paynter

    Susan Paynter Well-Known Member
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    An ongoing abstract bone of contention!

    This question comes to my mind every time I find coincidences happening in my life.
    When I say coincidences, i mean, when you put two and two together you wonder how, why when and what??

    I feel this is what I am paying for staying single. Initially, I sought to find companionship, but came up with the wrong connections. In fact, after paying into a well known site I was in conversation with someone and strangely that connection just got cut off and another person came on the screen. At first I thought nothing about it. Later I realized my computer and life was totally compromised after several of these happenings. I also noticed there were a lot of coincidences happening and these involved my close friends of more than 40 years. I broke my head to analyze what am I doing wrong or who have I offended. These coincidences also involve family. The worst part is that no one will tell me who is that ghost out there who thinks they are covering my back. Sometimes I feel, yes, I am covered but at other times I feel it's not fair, I am an adult and I should be able to take care of myself. Especially, when the coincidences get out of hand. This has interfered with my relationship with my friends, family and unknown people who I try to interact with. The only thing I can fathom is that it has to be someone in power with access to high technology who is able to inflitrate into systems no layman could. Someone who is doing it off the record of his or her position.!!!
     
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  2. Gloria Mitchell

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    Um call police dept...there is nothing wrong in needing help !
     
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  3. Cody Fousnaugh

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    I met my wife thru a Personal Ad that I placed in a local magazine and she answered it. Read the ad and called a specified number, that was attached to my ad, and left me a message. Within her message, she left her phone number. I got other messages from ladies, but hers was the only one that got my full/100% attention.

    During the 22 years I was single/divorced, I met ladies at nightclubs and a few other places, but none of it worked out. I had to find a lady that wanted a great relationship that would turn into marriage...........and, I found it with my wife.
     
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  4. Susan Paynter

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    Gloria,

    No faith in that dept. I went to lodge a complaint about my car being damaged in the underground garage. The old crony there wanted to know everything else but my complaint.

    Cody,
    So glad you found your soul mate. You keep repeating this on several occasions, maybe you are trying to make a point. However, one just cannot marry someone without the right connection. I did not find it and as I have gotten older I feel it's the right decision I have made. Surely, being in a relationship has its pros but the cons could outweigh them. I am satisfied in my life, except for the fact, that someone in my past just wont leave me alone.
     
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  5. Don Alaska

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    Sorry you are having a tough time, @Susan Paynter . I have no experience with dating sites, as I have been married to the same woman for 44 years. Way back when I used to meet ladies at church or in "common interest" groups, like garden clubs, adult classes, etc. I know one guy who met his love on a forum. Good luck!
     
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    Good on you Don. You are one of the lucky people who made it work. My parents too were married till they both departed this life. I was married for 17 years and it came with a lot of baggage. I hoped it would work again but like someone said you can't fit a round peg in a square.

    I came on this forum to be able to use my brain and not end up with dementia. I realized that's were I was heading towards at one time. What life has in store for me god only knows. I live for the day and tomorrow is another day I am grateful to have. I had seen lots of women in my counseling sessions get married again to people they met on dating sites. Unfortunately, that was not in the cards for me.
     
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  7. Cody Fousnaugh

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    Well, Susan, I don't know about "making a point". Perhaps trying to meet someone online isn't the best way to do it. Then again, there are those that have done that and things came out very good.

    With the right person, and you try to find that out as quickly as possible, the pros can definitely outweigh the cons. Both people have to connect in the right ways. Communication and interests are major words in a relationship.

    And, if you are so "satisfied" with your life, why did you spend out money to find someone?

    So, if you don't trust law enforcement, just how do you handle legal problems? Ever thought about speaking to a lawyer? You have to speak to someone professionally, because this is affecting your well being.
     
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  8. Susan Paynter

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    "Satisfied " in this stage of my life. I am 60 now, i was divorced at 40. That's when I was looking. Not anymore as I now have health issues.

    Even if I go to law enforcement, I have no actual proof. Case dismissed.
    I need divine intervention. Tks for responding.
     
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    Well, Susan, good luck to you!

    I married again when I was 49 and wife was 50. Other than both of us being Diabetic II, we have no major health issues. Just the old achy pain from arthritis and osteoarthritis. But, I was my wife's nurse after she had gall stones removed and a hysterotomy done. She was my nurse when I had my hip replacement done in 2005 and when I had both of my rotator cuff surgeries (each shoulder) in 2007 and 2015.

    Funny, but during the 22 years I was single/divorced, I would many times look at my wedding ring finger and wonder if I'd ever wear a wedding band again. I really missed the feeling! Now I have one that and absolutely love it.

    Just to let you know, we are both the "clingily" type. Love to be together and do almost everything together. I don't have any buddies, because my wife doesn't everything that a buddy would do (fish, target shoot, etc.). And, she's a darn good shot, with her 9mm handgun.
     
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  10. Shirley Martin

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    I'm not sure what @Susan Paynter is asking. There seem to be several topics in her original post.... online dating, coincidence, a guardian ghost, someone or something infiltrating her computer, and troubled relationships. :confused:
     
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  11. Gloria Mitchell

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    Keep in mind where you meet someone has nothing to do with that person's self worth.
    Meeting someone in a church is no better or worse than a bar.
    Most people pay attention to all the good things someone says about themselves or about others.
    I pay attention to what they Don't say.
     
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    My nephew met his wife in church. It turned out to be disastrous.
     
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    @Shirley Martin

    In my personal experience, both wonderful and disastrous outcomes result from church adherence. Maybe more the latter than the former......

    Frank
     
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    @Susan Paynter

    I will iterate the great difference existing between today's dependence on our both wonderful and despicable technology, and the "hard-ass" old-fashioned approach I happen to see as necessary. As an example of what I mean is the constant barrage of warnings appearing on my screen day after day, predicting disastrous ruin for my computer, viruses, worms, hackers, lack of security features, and so on. Reality for me exists as reality alone, not another world of "cyber" whispy intangible existences floating about everywhere in ether.

    My real world exists around me OUTSIDE of an illuminated electronic screen. I have not allowed the "Information Age" to overcome my innate sense of self.......let's say my computer is inundated by a barrage of the much-feared crap we all hear about.......know what I'll do? I will throw the computer against the rock wall outside my house and go back to living as I did for the first 50 years of my life, in which the only modern information intrusion was television. And, I won't miss it.

    Social networking has reached immensely absurd proportions, a miasma of folks revealing to others what they ate for lunch, which kid puked this morning, whether the cut while shaving bled; all this is utter nonsense, IMO.

    IMO. Argue this with me all you like, but rest assured I can easily attain a satisfying daily life again without cyber intervention.

    Frank
     
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    I'm not certain exactly what's going on with you, but you don't need evidence to go talk to the cops...you need evidence when you charge someone and take them to court.

    The police very well may have seen others go through the same thing you are. There may be "next steps" to discover the "who" and/or to protect yourself. You tax dollars are paying them...go have a chat. It's free. And it's a good idea to get yourself on their radar screen.
     
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