When all of your children got married of course your son-in laws and daughter-in laws became the new members of your family and at the same time you should be treating them also like your own children already. Are there instances where there are conflicts that arises between you and them? Are you the kind of parents-in laws that are hard to please and to deal with? Do you think that you are getting along well with your son-in laws and daughter-in laws?
I'm lucky, and I'm easy .. .. I have two son-in-laws, and I love them dearly. They both do numerous chores and things around the house for me since I became a widow. Call them, and they come running .. one lives up the street, and the other one is an electrician, so that is handy! I have one daughter-in-law, and she is a sweetheart too. We get along great, as I do with her parents. She is my son's second wife. She and I enjoy football together .... strange, I know. Now... the son's first wife and mother to his two children, she and I had a falling out some years back. And that never got repaired, so she made sure that I didn't communicate with the grandkids when they were growing up. They lived across the country, still do, but the grandkids are grown now and have reached out to me and our family on their own, so that is encouraging. The oldest girl is planning to make a trip here to visit when she has some time off from her job.
I have a daughter in law and a son in law. My daughter in law is a great mother, a dentist, active in her community, kind to others and nice to me when I visit which is only about twice a year because they live too far. My son loves her very much and she makes him happy and that's all I care about. Even if she did something I didn't like I wouldn't say anything. My son in law is a dentist also and he golfs in all his free time. I don't say what's on my mind to him either., but would love to but keep my mouth shut for my daughters sake. My daughter married in 1997 and my son in 2004, first marriages for all.
It is so nice that you are getting along well with your two son-in-laws and your one daughter-in-laws. Like what you had said you are really very lucky because there are some parents-in-laws who are not in good terms of their son-in-laws and daughter-in-laws. You had a lovely family!
I'm fortunate to have loving parents-in-law. My husband's mother is very affectionate to me and his father is also very supportive. I remember when my husband went abroad for a 4-month training, we were staying in an apartment at the time. And since I was the only one left, my father-in-law decided to ask me to move in with them. Their ancestral house is big anyway with 6 bedrooms so a vacant bedroom is not a problem. Naturally I relented. My father-in-law supervised the moving of our things and that night, I was living with them already.
I have had 2 daughters-in-law. Well, actually my sons second wife is my current dil. I am nice to them both and they are nice to me.