I grew up around guns of all kinds so I am comfortable with guns. What I am not comfortable with is a gun in the hands of an untrained person or anyone that doesn't have control of their emotions. A female choosing a firearm should use the same guidelines as a male. Don't get a gun that is more than you can handle repeatedly. A well-placed shot with a .22 is more deadly than a poorly placed shot with a .357 mag. Using a handgun at a longer distance, I prefer a .22 long, but for very close, my choice is a lightly loaded Colt .45. The best home defense is a shotgun with buckshot. A 12 gauge with double 30" barrels can create some ugly messes at close range. For distance shots, a .243 bolt action with a scope is my choice. My general all-purpose rife is the Winchester 30/30 lever action with iron sights. I actually fear kitchen knives more than I do guns. Never aim at anything you don't intend to shoot. Never shoot at anything you don't intend to kill. Never carry a gun that you don't intend to use if necessary. Never have a gun just to scare people. Make every shot count. Be proficient in rapid reloading. Those are the rules that I was brought up with and still fully subscribe.