Compared To Others, Is Your Lifestyle Boring?

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  1. Patsy Faye

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    Hope that little birdie will be fine in your good hands Bobby - so rewarding to care for a little creature
     
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    Summed up beautifully Yvonne
     
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    Yes, Frank, you didn't mishear that. You're right, I could have said: "during my working life" or used another, more neutral expression but didn't because I wanted to convey that I could have done without having to go to work in order to earn a living. But since I didn't have enough money conditions forced me to.

    Here I was referring to the following phenomenon. Maybe some of you have had a similar experience.

    People tend to think they know what is the best thing for you to do. When I was about to retire, quite a number of people both at work and in my personal environment kept asking the one (obvious) question: "I hear you are going to retire. So what will you do as a retiree?" Some of them expected to hear that I'd be travelling the world and the other faction expected that, at least, I would do some work on the side, engage in some social activity or whatsoever. My negative answer to those suggestions came as a bit of a disappointment. They (wrongly) assumed I could only be satisfied with my life as a retiree if I did one of the those two things because they themselves would do it that way. But I told them not to worry. I'll be fine and what I do will be the right decision.

    My plight is mainly one of the past always raising its head when I'm looking back or when I have to compare working life with retirement. Goes without saying that you can't change everything but only certain things.
     
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  4. Cody Fousnaugh

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    Will totally agree with you, Chrissy. I've never made that much money in my life, but still had enough to have some fun with, but ALWAYS wanted a lady to share that "fun" with. So, so lucky I found her...….my wife.
     
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    Well, there are those retirees that sell their house, buy a motorhome and travel everywhere. I have a high school graduation classmate that, her and her husband, done just that. They kept their small car and haul it behind their motorhome. From reading their travels on Facebook, they are having a ball. Only problem is, she has to do all of the driving, because he can no longer see well enough to drive anymore. One thing for sure they AREN'T, is bored. Absolutely no way.

    Of course they are both retired with pensions and SS...…..which makes things a whole lot easier.
     
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    I haven't been really bored until this last year...just not having a good year.

    Can't put my finger on the reason....maybe because it's a lot of small things adding up...

    I'm actually thinking of going to therapy if I can find one that is near enough and takes my insurance...there was one referral I had that took my insurance but he wasn't taking new patients.

    I did just come home from Curves and signed up for their luncheon next Wednesday....but I'm not excited about it...just trying to get out more here.......:(
     
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    This is good. No, this is great, Chrissy. Wife and I are glad to see it. Two "thumbs up" for you!!
     
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    Sometimes you just have to make the effort Chrissy if you want things to change
    You can get out and about - that's a big plus
     
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    I know what I have to do...just doing it is the problem. :(
     
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    @Chrissy Cross - I suppose that's a difficult one for me to grasp as you want to meet people and this is a good
    chance. I hope you go and hope it will be a great experience for you :)
     
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    It's hard to explain....
     
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    I can imagine that - maybe being on your own so long, you're unsure of meeting up with people
    and won't feel relaxed. But - I think you will once you get there, if you don't feel comfy, make your excuse and leave
    At least you will have tried :)
     
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    @Cody Fousnaugh
    We had seriously talked about living out of a motorhome. Seemed like a wonderful way to achieve new-found freedom. Then reality sank in: if your permanent residence is movable, what about your mail? Pick up at a postal box? Most jurisdictions will not mail a driver license to a box #. I had to do it once, when we rented a house with no address, half way up South Mountain in Phoenix. It took serious argument with the bureau manager, but he finally OK'd it.

    Then there is the taxes; motor homes present huge tax burdens, more so in some locales than others. Folks register them in states with the lowest taxes. No mailing address again presents problems.

    Then there is insurance. Imagine the rates imposed on a vehicle costing several hundred-thousand dollars?

    Then there is up-keep. Ever see one of those behemoths being towed away? Takes a special, huge tow-truck.

    We decided we couldn't afford it.
    Frank
     
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    That might be an answer, Chrissy. If you don't find male friends, perhaps you can find female friends you can share with.
     
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    @Frank Sanoica a motorhome is a GREAT second home, but not a great primary residence. In addition to the items you mentioned, I have found that women especially like to have a base to work from. My lady loves to travel, but could never stand being a nomad.
     
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    I'm not even looking for male friends, been there, done that, lol.

    Yes, hopefully I'll find someone at Curves and the luncheon that is a good fit for me as a friend.

    I'm not anti social..but I do have motivation problems...once Ive gotten somewhere...I'm fine. :)
     
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    Like Beatrice Taylor, I don't consider myself as having a lifestyle.
    To me , a lifestyle is just an accumulation of habits. I like to learn new things and if you take the opportunity to do that I don't think you can ever get bored.
    Being single has its advantages in that respect as I can just get up and go wherever I want, when I want ,and be answerable only to my own conscience.
     
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    Our lifestyle in boring to many since we live in a large retirement for active adults. We watch movies and socialize with friends once or twice a week. However, after 46 years of me traveling to 20+ countries mostly for business, relocating 13 times, living in our 9th house, taking 4 vacations a year and spoiling ourselves with all the money the rest of you spend on your kids (we are not breeders), doing nothing is enjoyable, :)

    I have started to do more by joining the Amateur Radio Club, Gun Club and Mensa Club. However meeting do not start until September due to may snow birds being away until then. 40% of the people who live here are gone for the hot summer months so things are empty and no lines at restaurants or movies. I am also an introvert but can be very social when I need to be. I enjoy my own company and hard to find people who share my interests and want to discuss more than the weather, where to eat or how many coupons they have. :)
     
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    Doesn't sound boring at all to me!
     
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    Well, it looks like Mr. Pickles can socialize just fine; and I am sure you would be having a great time, too, if you do decide to go to the curves luncheon, or out for some other social gathering, @Chrissy Cross .

     
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    Haha..Crusoe cracks me up! Love the banana....hahaha
     
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    Our lifestyle right now is pretty full.

    Both of us are still working, but we sure fill the other time with as much
    activity as we can handle.

    We do a fair amount of spontaneous stuff, like dinning out, a concert or just a
    drive to a close by town, walk around and spend the night.
    No children living at home, no pets, so if the urge hits us we are gone.

    Our target is to both stop working around November and just enjoy the Holidays,
    and start our retirement.

    If I see 'boredom' rearing it's ugly head, I'll just beat it back with a "let's have an adventure" stick.:)
     
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    same as us almost exactly Tim...except of course I took early retirement 12 months ago, and I'm still figuring out where my niche lies. Hubs is only in his 50's .. so no retirement for a long time if he stays healthy please god... ..... but otherwise everything you've written applies to us...
     
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  25. Tex Dennis

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    Boring well you tell me, my day up early hay and feed livestock and dogs take them with me unleashed, do same late afternoons, tale 2 mile walks most days any weather, fish 2-4 days a week taking others, shoot pistol matched all the time not just think about it, ride my horse weekly, cook for neighbors most Sundays pm, on the go daily todays trip cancelled for storms or be gone now, semi care taker for my doctor after the accident (spent almost 2 years almost full time), go to K9 meets monthly, love to help others as needed, so bored not at all, not any.
    I have my dogs and can shoot or fish every day if I wish to.
     
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