If Someone Asks You What You Would Like For Christmas, Do You Tell Them The Truth?

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  1. Bobby Cole

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    No, not related but pretty close call. It isn't that I do not like to receive gifts for certainly just about everyone likes them. To me, gift giving is all about spontaneity and the spirit in which a gift is given.
    I do absolutely LOVE Christmas but not so much the mandatory thing about giving and receiving gifts. If I have a few extra rocks in my pocket and I see something I think might fit as a gift, I buy it no matter the season or the event. I would much rather someone gave me a gift because it just seemed to fit at the time rather than, "It's Christmas (or my birthday) and I know he will expect something so..........".

    I suppose, in other words, if there is a gift to be received, I like to think it comes from the genuine thought of giving and not because it is the product of some sort of protocol. :)
     
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  2. Bobby Cole

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    That's some toss-up. Whilst I do love croquets, especially the ones with seafood in them, I think the dart board might be less work.................:p
     
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  3. Cody Fousnaugh

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    Bobby, gifting giving/receiving at Christmas, Birthday, Wedding Anniversary or Valentine’s Day isn’t “protocol”, it’s traditional and done within love.
    Absolutely couldn’t imagine not giving my wife a card and gift for any of these special days. Just couldn’t. That’s love, total love!
     
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  4. Bobby Cole

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    I respect that and glad it makes you and yours happy. Still, gift giving is still expected and therefore it is protocol based on tradition.
    For me, I would much rather have a hug and a I love you than anything that Yvonne could possibly buy. And ya know what? I get that every day! I do not have to wait for a special occasion for her to show me how much she loves me by buying something. To tell the truth, the only present I wish to unwrap is her and that is a special occasion unto itself and believe me, there are no dates marked on the calendar for that.

    I celebrate Thanksgiving EVERY day, the birth of Christ EVERY day, and His resurrection EVERY day. I celebrate Yvonne's birth EVERY day and our marriage EVERY day so the bottom line is that if I decide to buy a gift in the middle of July and say Merry Christmas, it's valid.
    Whatever you or the other nearly 300 million people in the U.S. wish to do is appropriate for you and them.

    How's that for honesty?
     
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  5. Missy Lee

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    uhhh....do we have a mixup here or are you joshing with me, not quite sure o_O

    You might be thinking croquettes perhaps....I am thinking croquet, mallets that you hit balls through a hoop....either way, I can go for it :)
     
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  6. Cody Fousnaugh

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    Not bad, not bad at all, but do disagree in some ways. Wife and I tell each other daily that we love each other and hug often, but Christmas, Birthday, Anniversary and Valentine’s Day gifts and cards are extremely important as well......at least for many, many people.

    I’m still wondering about the question I asked about the Wisemen’s expensive gifts to the Baby Jesus that were given out of love for him.
     
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    Just messin' with ya...........:)
     
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  8. Bobby Cole

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    I think you can Interpret the gifts any which way you wish. The child born in Bethlehem during an astronomical event (the star) was prophesied (probably Daniel) as the birth of a King and a savior. The Magi were probably Persians who were astronomers and students of scripture and whether or not they actually visited Jesus just after his birth or a year later is still being debated by some major theologians but who cares. They visited Jesus and brought gifts.

    In truth, expensive gifts were a tradition to give to any proposed deity or king but whether it is out of love or simply the thing to do is up to each individual to determine.

    Now Cody, here's the MAIN thing. You can do or propose any method of showing your affection any which way you want to. If I so chose to, I could go full blown Biblical on you and that would be the absolute end of it for me. But............you have your thing and I have mine and I am NOT going to attempt to convince you or anyone else that I am right because what I do is as absolutely personal to me as it is to you. If you want to have the Thunderbirds do a flyover and give your lady the Hope diamond, that is what you do but it is not how I operate. So, agreeing with me or disagreeing doesn't phase me one iota but in the spirit of Christmas I wish and do PRAY that everyone here has a wonderful celebration of the birth of Christ Jesus and I do honestly believe that PRAYER trumps any material gift I can give.
     
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    Fair enough! Thanks, Bobby.
     
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    LOL...we gave up darts years ago, never keen on croquet ..but I do love to play Petanque...you can have a great time in your garden playing that with just you and o/h or with a bunch of ya... have you ever fancied that?
     
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    Never heard of Petanque.....interpretation needed....likely the same as croquette if it is played in the garden .....how did we go sooooo off topic :D
     
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    This might help you understand why those gifts were given @Cody Fousnaugh.

    https://www.gotquestions.org/gold-frankincense-myrrh.html
     
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    Well, Christmas, and other special days during the year, are very important to us, as well as giving and sending cards and gifts. For those that don't do it or even celebrate Christmas, or the other special days a lot of folks do, that has to be up to you. Obviously, a number of people don't, and won't, understand the "why not" of it, but...........

    Will say again, during the 21 years I was divorced, I didn't really celebrate Christmas, because I had very few friends and no relatives. Heck, I didn't even give Veteran's Day a thought and I'm a Veteran. Any days I had off for holidays, I was just glad to have off. Now that I'm married to a lady that loves Christmas, decorating and buying gifts, as well as celebrating other special days, like Valentine's Day, I do it as well and love it.
     
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    @Cody Fousnaugh , I just wanted to tell you about what happened after you had the little discussion about gift-giving. My dear Bobby decided to give me a Christmas present, and when we went to Sam’s club this month, he bought me a set of new cookie sheets.
    That might not sound impressive, but all I have ever, ever had was the worn out ugly black ones from the thrift store or a yard sale, so having actual brand new cookie sheets is an awesome gift in my eyes.
    Every time I bake cookies , I am reminded how much my husband loves me, and I am happy all over again. He might wish he hadn’t started this now, though, because I already asked him for what I want for my birthday............Pizza Pans ! !
     
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    :)
     
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    I'd rather not know what I'm getting for Christmas. If there were something in particular that I wanted, I would just buy it, so I'd rather get something that I wouldn't otherwise buy for myself and I have never returned a gift, other than clothing that didn't fit, and that was for a replacement.
     
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    It's really hard to find gifts to give to the older grandkids...as their parents buy them everything they want all year long. It wasn't this way when I was growing up...or even raising my own kids....we did not have the kind of income that would "pay" for Christmas every day. So when we did get or give things for Christmas, these gifts were appreciated and used all year long. My grandkids play with their new things or use them until they tire of them or there is an updated version which "they just have to have."

    Even with the younger grandkids it is getting harder to buy for them...for they already have everything too. Every day is Christmas for many kids who are growing up now. Sometimes I think parents try to give their kids everything to try to make up for all the time they can not spend with them because of their careers.

    I finally heard my middle daughter tell me this Christmas that she is really starting to hate it. She doesn't even know what to get her kids anymore and she's really tired of never having a moment to relax and enjoy the Holiday Season. I told her to think about how she can make some changes that would make Christmas more meaningful to her...and therefore her family too.
     
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    The grandsons at my daughter's got lots of gift cards and the older boy got clothes he wanted.

    The big items for the 14 yr old were a new basketball hoop for the back yard. A TV for his room and a new Xbox and some games.

    He got two sets of new headphones so he doesn't have to take the one that he uses in the den with his PlayStation 4 upstairs.

    Also got controllers for the games...always an extra for a friend that comes to play.

    That's all I remember seeing.

    I got mostly money and some sweaters and perfume and lotions and potions and a firestick since my son never sent me the old one he had. :)

    I don't get the iwatch because I wasn't sure yet but got enough money to buy it if I decide on it.

    Pickles also got some goodies in his stocking.:)
     
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    Just remembered the Harden basketball shoes the 14 yr old got...he was very happy with those because they weren't on his Christmas list and he was surprised.

    My daughter said she got him every single thing on his list so no surprises except the shoes and stocking stuffers.

    The TV was also a surprise...he wanted one but they had a rule of no tvs in their bedrooms. I helped persuade my SIl that Nicholas deserves one....he is a super kid.

    He also got a firestick in his stocking and some game cards or whatever he uses on the Xbox

    The oldest also got an Uber card in his stocking.
     
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    Now for the youngest grandsons in Illinois I sent gifts through Amazon prime.

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    IMG_1819.JPG IMG_1818.JPG Here they are holding up what I got them.

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    It's kind of cool that the 12 yr old in Illinois plays on his PlayStation with my 14 yr old grandson in California. They talk to each other through the game...I can hear them.

    They seldom see each other even if they are cousins because of the distance but at least they get to play something together. :)

    They can talk to other people also...strangers so you do have to keep an eye out...at least on the 12 yr old....Nicholas is older and knows not to talk to strangers on the internet...he only plays with his friends or his cousin.
     
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    @Babs Hunt ....are my pics the right way? I can never tell. I did run them through photobomb to crop but didn't rotate them because they look right to me.
     
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    Chrissy, your pictures ALWAYS look right to me......
    PS They are great pictures of a happy family, and lots of Christmas presents under a beautiful Christmas tree.
     
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    Thanks @Yvonne Smith :) There was a part of me this Christmas that wished I was there like I was last year...Christmas with the older ones is different and I enjoy the Illinois Christmas more...even the weather.

    Hopefully next year!!

    I also meant to say ran them through photo lab and not photo bomb, lol.
     
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