When Friend Or Family Member Refuses To Understand

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  1. Cody Fousnaugh

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    My half-brother text me yesterday asking how we were and did he offend us. He did call one time, a couple of weeks ago, and left a message, but I didn't call him back. The last two times he has called, I haven't answered and he didn't leave a voice message. I texted him back and told we were fine and what my MRI stated. I also told him that I really don't want to talk about cancer or my diagnosis until after I have a biopsy. He sent me a text back stating, "thanks for letting us know and keep in touch".

    He didn't tell me how his treatment is going and I didn't ask. Apparently him and his wife have to stay at their home in PA for his treatments and he absolutely hates snow. Him and his wife are "Snowbirds" and have a winter home at Spring Hill, Florida (Gulf Coast side of Florida).
     
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    My SIL (wife's older sister) sent us an Instant Message on Thanksgiving telling us that she has a terrible cough and doesn't feel good at all. Thing is, she is at her older daughter's home for Thanksgiving with some family members of both of her daughters there. IOW, guess for her, having Thanksgiving with them, and possibly giving them what she has, is ok with her. She is THIS sick and still insists on being around these family members??? We don't get it, but that's just the way she is.

    I told her, thru Instant Messaging, "Sure hope you get rid of whatever you have before coming to see us in the middle of next month (December)." She didn't have much to say, other than "I'm going home tomorrow (Friday) and get some sleep."

    She should know that, when a person has a terrible cough, unless they take an OTC cough medicine, sleep can't occur very easily.

    I told my wife, "She comes to see us, and still has this cough, I'll refuse to see her or be around her." My wife agrees, but would like to see her older sister.
     
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    @Cody Fousnaugh - your a better person than me .. I could be very upset at the very idea -seems selfish and rude to me
     
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    What can we say, Hedi, most of the time no matter how bad she feels, she loves being around her grandkids and daughters on holidays like Easter, Thanksgiving and Christmas. Guess "spreading" whatever she has just doesn't bother her. For the last number of years, since her husband passed, she has the mindset of "I'll do what I want and nobody will tell me I can't or shouldn't."
     
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    good for Her- but ya'll don't have to bow to her demands. If you and wife do go around her- wear a mask or ask her to;)
     
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    She told us, thru Instant Messaging on our iPhone, "I've been getting rest/sleep and doing better".
    We sure hope so, because her, and her youngest daughter, only have two weeks until they arrive here. The aren't staying with us. They are staying at a Timeshare in Vegas.
     
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