Tired: Sometimes, mainly on weekends and then it can be "nap time" for a couple of hours in the afternoon. Listless: Pretty much never. Bored: Not much for me, but for my wife, sometimes Lonely: Sometimes when she's at work, but mainly no.
I've been chasing two rugrats lately, and if anything can remind you that you should be careful of what you wish for, it's two little ones that don't yet know the rules to anything. My babysitting days will be over at the end of this week, and although I'm sore in many places, I will have some fun memories. These three weeks have allowed me to build the neighborly bond that I was hoping to have. I sold them the place two years ago, and I've had the joy of watching a young family spread their wings. Plus, they have three horses that are just outside my bedroom window about 200 feet away, and they are always entertaining.
I know what you mean about the little ones, @Ina I. Wonder . Bubba brings so much joy and laughter to me. One of his favorite things to do is play with PlayDoh. Can you imagine how exciting it is to play PlayDoh with a five year old? Well, last Sunday, he wanted me to play PlayDoh so I agreed. Just about that time, his Dad told him it's time to go back to Mimi's house. He looked at me and said,"Sorry, can't play PlayDoh!" Oh, darn!
Try being at the beck and call of an 11 year old with Aspergers....that kid wore me to a nibble last week. Always forgetting to take something to school..endless little things . I finally told her yesterday...I am done you forget something...tuff I am not your personal servent kiddo.But she does keep me on me toes.
@Shirley Martin, I save the, "Let's build something with PlayDoh.", for when the kidniks have pretty much worn me out. That way I can at least sit at the table and catch my breath, especially if I get the children to make their own PlayDoh. At least I remember the different things I use to do with my boys way back in the 60's, and it is good to know I still don't need expensive toys to keep them entertained. @Gloria Mitchell, I think I can relate. My youngest son was born 2&1/2 months early, and although we could tell Young Michael was intelligent, we could still see he had problems. We ended up having him tested at the age of five, when his kindergarten teacher said she was concerned for several reasons. Mainly because Michael didn't seem to be excited like the other children to make friends, and that he seemed to be in a world all of his own. She felt he needed special attention. Michael didn't speak until he was four, and he had a speech impediment until he was about nine. I would have to tell him do things over and over, and I thought he was being a brat. After four weeks of intense testing at a children's medical center, we found out that his bad behavior had real reasons. The doctors told us that Michael tested very high on the intelligence scale, but that he had and would always have a short term memory issue, but that training would help. Turns out he was also dyslexic, ambidextrous, and had spatially problems. The doctors felt that although Michael was not yet ready to join the real world, it was just a matter of time. Michael learned how to deal with all his problems, he finished high school early, and he acquired two BA's from the University of Houston. He had a very good long term memory, but his short term memory cost him everything from jobs to friends, and even a wife/
We are going through this right now with my middle daughter's middle son. He has been having problems in school from the time he started Kindergarden. My daughter has been told they think he has ADD, etc. and every year my daughter has taken him for more tests, etc. even counseling to find out what's really going on. He's a good kid, just can't seem to keep his mind on things for very long, is highly intelligent, and is always forgetting to bring all his stuff too. This school year they are now saying they think he has Aspergers and my daughter is taking him to a Specialist in New Orleans soon for testing, etc. When she told me this I did some research on Aspergers and alot of the things do sound like what my grandson does. We are really hoping they will be able to find the answers and ways we all can help him. When I saw you post Gloria about your granddaughter always forgetting to take something to school...that is exactly what my grandson does too.
@Ina I. Wonder @Babs Hunt ...thank you both for your posts. She has a host of issues...lol of them in fact.But between drugs , therapy, counciling she is not the child she was 7 years ago. I describe her previous self as that of the young Helen Keller who Patty Duke portrayed. Although there is nothing wrong with her hearing she behaved oddly and well it was a nightmare. Now she is totally different but we are dealing with another issue that is playing havoc with us all. She is hormonal...yes the dreaded monthly thing will be arriving soon.So once again she is a handful. Her first year in middle school and having do things never expected of her.She is finding it difficult to cope. She is very very smart but does find certain subjects hard to understand. Bottom line I could probably write a book on this child. She is absolutley delightful or indescribaly monstrous right now in the blink of eye . We think meds might need tweaking since her hormones are kicking in.
Gosh Gloria...that sounds so much like my grandson too. It's like your posts are just confirmation that we are looking in the right direction for my grandson too. We didn't really want to have to go the drug route...but if they will help him then we need to at least give them a chance to see if they will help him. Thanks for sharing with us.
@Babs Hunt trust me..the meds make a big difference. It may take several times to get the right dose. Then over time will be raised or lowered. Few months ago doctor added Abilfy and that has helped to. Trying to handle this own your own will only make life a nightmare for all. The other thing is when the child decides they no longer want meds..oh lordy...this where you use deceit and or bribery to get the meds taken. Glad the previous info helps some.
She fid not talk until 5...full term baby. She also had echophila...did or watched the same things literally all day long unless made to change. They become confused it they do not have a routine and if that routine varies they have hardtime coping.And yes Asspie kids do not know how to handle social situations...but they do learn.
My daughter tried handling on her own, with help, with counseling....she and her husband and all of us have done all we could do to help...but things are just getting worse and my grandson is miserable too. I'm praying he won't need alot of medication...but if meds are part of what can make him feel better than sometimes it just has to be this way. We don't want him drugged up so that he becomes a zombie, etc. ... this part is just beginning for all of us so we will have to see if meds help or just make things worst.
They are narcotic drugs...but in time doses can be lessened. Once the right dose and meds are prescribed you and ,family see the difference...you willbe happier. And no he should not act zombie like.