I''be been thinking about what has happened to the young man I've been talking about. Everything came to a head the day hurricane Harvey made landfall. It ended up with the young man, Paul, exploding. He got angry at his grandmother, because she would not give him her phone. This was the one person that always bailed him out of whatever jam he found himself in. He took her hostage at gun point, and then he beat her with that gun. It took several hours for the police and his mother to talk him into letting his 73 year old grandmother go. She spent four days in the hospital, and Paul is now in jail awaiting his trial. Because his offense involved a gun, and the abuse of a senior citizen, he is facing a 10 year sentence. What amazes me is his grandmother is trying to get some of the charges dropped. I could understand this if Paul were willing to go into counseling, but he still refuses to even consider the idea. I have no idea of how to ease my friend's, Paul's mother, mind at all, mainly because I think Paul's incarceration is the best thing for the whole family. I admit it does ease my mind that he now can not go through with the threats that he has been issuing to me and my home. How would you counsel his mother? Right now she is feeling guilty about being relieved that Paul can't hurt her or the rest us. But I can see the struggle she is going through.
The best thing for everybody concerned would be for him to get a ten year sentence. He would be safe from harming himself and anybody else. The next time he explodes, he might kill somebody. Then he could go to prison for life. If he is sent away this time, he might have no choice but get counseling.
@Ina I. Wonder ...so sorry to hear this. I have a close family member in prison right now...different type of charge. Then I know several who have been to prison. He will be evluated on all levels. If meds are needed they will be given . Then he will be counciled on regular basis. He will be given opportunity to change and maybe with meds he can. Botyom line..will eithet make him or break him. As for GM perhaps a councilor for her also or a support group to help her realize changes even she needs to make. Sounds like a co dendency situation and really think therapy would help.